I guess my question might have come across as sarcastic or mocking!
I promise it was not meant that way, it was a sincere attempt to understand something that is completely alien to my life experiences (I was raised inside the feminist maelstrom, where practically everything any man said or did would provoke some tirade of accusations that they were being chauvinistic or misogynistic.)
I was curious if the Headpatting was part of a general fantasy the DEV was weaving,
or specific to this character being submissive by nature ,
or if it is considered "normal" relative to the national standard of a specific country or group of countries,
or maybe "normal" within a specific subgroup for example groups that celebrate certain "traditional"/"religous" values.
afterall, all the worlds in these games are some % fantasy, based on the Devs kinks, and some % reality, based on the Devs upbringing/life experiences.
it can be hard figuring which parts can be considered "real" when you don't understand the authors origin/culture.