That's because you obviously chose a sub/very sub route, and you totally can, but that's on you. I didn't forgo anything in my playthrough, I was totally the first in all these categories, and I'm not even playing on the dominant path. On balanced, you get first dibs at everything--as you should. It's only if you *purposefully choose* to deny yourself that you get denied.Of course there is self-denial everytime he forgoes a certain sexual act with her. He explicitely says he doesn't want to fuck her raw, this should be limited to the bull. The same with anal and creampie. This is the very definition of self-denial. I don't know what you are talking about.
If you want to be subversient to Laura's bulls, once again, you can, but the game doesn't force you to go there. You can totally get rid of Oliver (I mean, once and for all), you can choose who gets every first, and you can even deny Nathan anal with Laura--all of this on the balanced path.
If you play denial, it's because you *want* to, so why are you complaining because the game lets you play the way you choose?