I’m pretty sure MC gives Vi the consent to play around right? She first asks him if he’s comfortable if James comes in, if you say no, James goes home and nothing happens. MC HAS to give his consent for Vi to being fooling around with other people.
I do understand your gripe for the NTR route, but you can still choose dialogues to make MC indifferent towards Claire’s advances. It’s more to show Claire’s desire for dominance and feel superior to the men she’s with, however you can see that starting to change in the last scene of hers where she’s the one starting to be dominated, the story will expand on that. Emotional cheating is kinda borderline with the other dialogue options only because I wanted to leave the door open for a possible revenge route later on. As it stands MC is deeply in love with Vi and vi loves MC in the NTR Route. Thanks for commenting!
Permission for Netorase (NTS) is not carte blanche. The difference between NTR (Netorare), which is commonly, and mistakenly, used as the overarching term for all things Netorare, Netorase, Netori, and every nuanced variation in between, and NTS, is that one (NTS) has a mutual, consensual, trust-based relationship between two partners, wherein there is consistent communication about and specific boundaries around what is allowed, and the other (NTR) has the elements of deception and non-consensual infidelity. The outcome for both is emotional turmoil and physical arousal by one partner having their significant other shared out or "taken" by someone else. Part of the problem arises when we, as readers, conflate the Dramatic Irony we enjoy as part of the story with the idea that the protagonist in the story also enjoys the same knowledge we do. In other words, with Netorase (NTS) the protagonaist is an active and mutual participant in shring their significant other AND has explicit knowledge of all encounters, before, during, and/or immediately after. While with Netorare (NTR), the protagonist may only have suspicion or find out some details well after the fact which leads to the darker emotional turmoil and arousal. Whether the two people love each other may not be in question with NTR, neither is it necessarily pertinent to the progression of a Netorare story arc, whereas with Netorase love is not only necessary it is the foundation of the relationship and the very reason consent, communication, and first hand knowledge is necessary as a difference.
If you prefer a simpler, less informed understanding of the differences between Netorare and Netorase, then stop reading here...
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...If you want a lengthy, in-depth, analysis of the genre and kink referred to as 'NTR' (See the following, section 3.0), then here is the research I have been working on. If you disagree with any of it, feel free to provide your own research.
A Definitive Guide to Infidelity Tropes: Netorare, Netorase, Netori, Cuckold, and Cuckqueen
1.0 Introduction: Deconstructing a Complex Lexicon
Terms like Cuckold, Netorare, and their variants, originating from distinct Western and Japanese cultural contexts, are frequently misunderstood and conflated. This complex lexicon describes a range of sexual dynamics and media genres centered on infidelity, yet the specific nuances are often lost in casual discussion. This guide provides clear, source-grounded definitions to delineate the specific perspectives, power dynamics, and emotional focuses of each term, bringing clarity to a subject rife with confusion.
The analysis will begin with foundational Western concepts that have evolved from literary archetypes into modern fetish subcultures. It will then shift to the highly specific Japanese genre terminology, which is primarily distinguished by narrative point of view. Finally, the guide will culminate in a direct comparative analysis to crystallize all distinctions and clarify the overlaps between these concepts.
2.0 Foundational Western Concepts: The Cuckold and Cuckqueen Archetypes
Understanding the Western terms 'Cuckold' and 'Cuckqueen' is strategically important, as they provide essential context for the broader field of infidelity-related fetishes. These archetypes possess a long literary history and have evolved into specific modern subcultures, primarily within the BDSM scene. Examining their definitions and dynamics establishes a baseline of willing participation and fetishistic pleasure that contrasts sharply with some of the Japanese concepts that follow.
2.1 Cuckold: From Ridicule to Fetish
The term 'cuckold' carries both a traditional, pejorative definition and a modern, consensual one rooted in fetishism.
Historically, a cuckold is the husband of an unfaithful wife. The term first appeared in 13th-century literature and was derived from the cuckoo bird, known for laying its eggs in other birds' nests. In this context, the husband is deceived and becomes an object of public mockery and ridicule.
In its contemporary fetishistic sense, a cuckold is a husband who not only consents to but also watches his wife engage in sexual activities with another man, often deriving pleasure from the act. This dynamic is a distinct subset of the BDSM scene and differs from a threesome because the husband does not physically participate in the sexual act. The practice manifests in several key dynamics:
- Submissive: In this scenario, the husband agrees to the act from a position of submission, acknowledging that he cannot provide adequate sexual satisfaction for his wife—it might be because of a small penis or the habit of pre-ejaculation. He consents to her seeking pleasure from a more capable man.
- Dominant: Termed an "alpha cuckold," this dynamic places the husband in a position of control. He orchestrates his wife's sexual encounters with others for his own pleasure. Alternatively, this can be part of a broader BDSM act where he watches her enjoyment specifically to punish her afterward.
- Masochistic: The core fetishistic element here is mental humiliation. The husband enjoys the degradation, demeaning activities, and the feeling of being left out. The psychological experience of his wife being with another man is the primary source of pleasure.
- Voyeuristic: Cuckolding is a form of voyeurism, which is the act of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others engage in sexual activity. However, it operates under the strict rule of consent from all three individuals involved, distinguishing it from illegal, non-consensual voyeurism.
A critical rule defines the boundaries of this fetish:
if the husband is forced to watch against his will or participates sexually in any way, the act is not considered cuckolding.
2.2 Cuckqueen: The Female Counterpart
A 'Cuckqueen' is the female equivalent of a cuckold. She is a woman who derives sexual pleasure from watching her husband or male partner engage in sexual activity with another woman. This practice has its own associated terminology within its subculture:
- Hothusband: The male partner of the cuckqueen.
- Cuckcake: The other woman involved in the sexual act.
- Hothusbanding: An alternative term used to describe the practice of cuckqueaning.
In cuckqueaning scenarios, the male partner often assumes a sexually dominant role while the cuckqueen is submissive. The wife usually only becomes involved with the man or his lover(s) when he permits it—sometimes remaining altogether celibate. The specifics of the fetish can vary widely, ranging from loving, consensual acts akin to swinging to scenarios that intentionally involve the humiliation and debasement of the cuckqueen for the pleasure of the participants.
These Western concepts, rooted in willing participation and shared fetish, provide a crucial foundation before exploring the more complex, perspective-driven terminology from Japan.
3.0 The Japanese "NTR" Family: A Matter of Perspective
The Japanese terms Netorare, Netori, and Netorase are genres commonly found in anime and manga that explore infidelity from highly specific viewpoints. Unlike their Western counterparts, the primary distinction between them lies in the narrative point of view—whether the story is told from the perspective of the one being betrayed, the one doing the stealing, or the one willingly giving their partner away. This focus on perspective, coupled with varying dynamics of consent, makes them precise and nuanced categories. The abbreviation
NTR, widely used in fan communities, is short for
Netorare, and has been bastardized in some communities of fetish and kink discussion to become the overarching term for all forms of the fetish.
3.1 Netorare (寝取られ): The Perspective of the Betrayed
Netorare literally translates to "to be taken away" or "being snatched away." This genre centers on the experience of a protagonist (Person A) whose romantic partner or love interest (Person B) is "stolen" by a third party (Person C).
The core emotional focus of a
Netorare narrative is the internal emotional distress, trauma, and devastation of the protagonist. The story is about the pain and heartbreak of betrayal. From the protagonist's (A's) perspective, the act is entirely non-consensual or occurs without their knowledge. Furthermore, the partner being taken (B), by the third party (Person C), is often subjected to non-consensual acts involving coercion, deceit, manipulation, blackmail, drugging, or force. While they may eventually give in or even come to prefer the third party (C), the act is still a violation of the partner (B), which in turn causes the emotional turmoil for the protagonist (A).
It is important to note that without first hand knowledge or knowledge after the fact of the acts being committed there cannot be, by omission of said knowledge, any emotional turmoil for the protagonist. That is, the protagonist must, at some point discover their romantic partner or love interest (B) has been unfaithful, else they remain blissfully ignorant.
3.2 Netori (寝取り): The Perspective of the Stealer
Netori is derived from the active verb
netoru, meaning "to take." In this genre, the narrative perspective shifts to the "stealer" or "homewrecker."
The protagonist of a
Netori story is the third party (Person C) who actively works to seduce, manipulate, or force someone else's partner (Person B) into a physical relationship. The central plot dynamic is one of conquest. To provide justification for the protagonist's actions, the original partner (Person A) is often characterized negatively—portrayed as an abuser, a cheater themselves, or otherwise unable to satisfy their partner.
3.3 Netorase (寝取らせ): The Perspective of the Giver
The term
Netorase originates from the causative form of the verb, meaning "to let or cause someone to take." This genre aligns closely with the Western cuckold fetish.
The protagonist (Person A) in a
Netorase story is a willing participant who actively enjoys, encourages, or even orchestrates their partner (Person B) having sex with a third party (Person C). This is the Japanese media genre equivalent of the willing cuckold or cuckqueen fetish, where the original partner gives their informed consent and derives pleasure from the act.
Having defined these terms individually, a direct comparison is necessary to fully crystallize their distinctions.
4.0 Comparative Analysis: Distinguishing Key Nuances
This section synthesizes the previous definitions into a clear, at-a-glance comparison. Understanding the axes of narrative perspective, consent of the original partner, and primary narrative focus is crucial to differentiating these often-confused terms.
4.1 Comparative Framework
Core Differentiators
Term
| Narrative Perspective
| Consent of Original Partner (A)
| Primary Narrative Focus |
Netorare | The Betrayed (Person A)
| No consent / Unaware
|
Focus on the protagonist's (A's) emotional trauma, humiliation, and devastation as their partner (B) is stolen by a third party (C). |
Netori | The Stealer (Person C)
| N/A (Protagonist is the stealer) | Conquest, seduction, or manipulation of another's partner. |
Netorase | The Giver (Person A)
| Full, willing consent
| Shared fetishistic pleasure, humiliation, or voyeurism. |
Cuckold/
Cuckqueen | The Giver (Person A)
| Full, willing consent
| Shared fetishistic pleasure, humiliation, or voyeurism. |
While the table provides a clear framework, certain concepts warrant a more direct comparison to address common points of confusion.
4.2 Distinctions and Overlaps
Netorare vs. Cheating
Although related,
netorare and
cheating are distinct concepts defined by specific criteria:
- Relationship Basis: The term cheating applies specifically when there is a reciprocal romantic relationship between the original couple (A and B). Netorare is broader and can apply to non-romantic relationships, such as childhood friends, personal friends, classmates, or work colleagues.
- Consent and Coercion: For an act to be considered cheating, the unfaithful partner (B) must consent to the act with the third party (C) without coercion. In netorare, partner B is often subjected to manipulation, blackmail, or force, and their consent is compromised.
- Narrative Focus: A story about cheating may focus on any character, but a netorare story specifically centers on the emotional trauma experienced by Person A. A key requirement is that the partner (B) being taken away from Person A must be a notable character the story.
Netorase vs. Cuckolding and Swinging
These terms describe similar consensual dynamics but differ in their origin and scope:
- Genre vs. Fetish: Netorase is a Japanese media genre term, while cuckolding is the Western term for the corresponding sexual fetish and practice. They essentially describe the same dynamic of a partner willingly watching or arranging for their significant other to have sex with someone else.
- Overlap with Swinging: Both netorase and cuckolding can be categorized under the broader umbrella of swinging under specific conditions: there must be a reciprocal romantic relationship between the original couple (A and B), and the partner (B) must consent to the activity without coercion.
5.0 Conclusion: A Summary of Distinctions
The lexicon surrounding infidelity tropes is nuanced, but a clear framework makes it decipherable. The fundamental differences between Western terms like Cuckold/Cuckqueen and the Japanese NTR family (Netorare, Netori, Netorase) lie in three key areas: the narrative point of view (betrayed, stealer, or giver), the status of consent among the original partners, and the central emotional theme of the story, whether it is trauma, conquest, or shared pleasure. By understanding these core differentiators, one can navigate this complex terminology with accuracy and clarity, appreciating the precise dynamics each term is meant to convey.
NOTE: In the instance of a story narrative, the reader enjoys the advantage of Dramatic Irony which can often blur the perceptions of what is intended by the author due to self-insertion or misconceptions about the Netorare fetish.