You're exactly right, the error on CJ's part is that he's completely ignorant of that fact (among many...many others) and just assumes everyone feels the same way about it as he does...which is a pretty tall-privileged-white-jock thing to do, not necessarily in a good way.There's a vast difference between casual homophobia and dropping slurs. He gets portrayed as such an empathetic guy that it not only feels weird for him to be dropping slurs like that, but its also weird how none of his friends would say anything about him doing it.
He treats Jamie like any freshman that would have been on his swim team back in Southern California where the word is so ubiquitously used amongst jocks that it ceases to mean anything. To him it clearly doesn't mean anything, but that doesn't stop it from being extremely crass.
This is a running theme with him not just here, but for a ton of very common Japanese courtesies that he just straight up ignores and would likely result in frowns. In this case though, it's something that Westerners can pretty easily pick up.
And actually as far as this goes:
Leah had just walked out of earshot of him in Ch11 when he said it, otherwise she probably would have.but its also weird how none of his friends would say anything about him doing it.
The only other people who heard him say it are Jamie (Who at that point is desperately trying to seem manlier near him and starts cursing a ton as a result) and Sarah (Who, as her latest side story in Ch31 shows, doesn't really understand curse words that aren't threats.)
For specific metrics, the word Fag is said a grand total of 4 times in the script, 1 of which is by Jamie, and it's only ever said between those two in an endearing way.
Vic's situation is deliberately written with enough vagueness that the reader's interpretation, and ultimately judgment, has room to be valid. I don't want to spell out how you should feel about her, and it's perfectly reasonable to have negative feelings about her (I mean hell, she does.)I am not saying we need to hate vic. She did what she did, but she was forgiven. And thats okay. Thats a good story and I think this game treats the subject generally with the significance that it deserves. It's clear as an important and tragic even that wasn't good for anyone involved. As opposed to a lot of other stories that either pretend it didn't happen or that it doesn't count because a man was the victim.
The unreliable narrator isn't in the actions, but the tone. Go look at how the prologue version is shot essentially like a horror movie while the Ch15 version from CJ's perspective is far more gentle and sad. The two look directly at the same event and came out with wildly different conclusions, with Sarah outright narrating what CJ experienced in Ch15.
Chapter 29 obviously changes that up even more, but I'm not sure if you've gotten there yet.
There have been a few people who have said that OoT says male rape isn't real, and I think it's a pretty odd conclusion considering literally everybody takes CJ's side except his downright villainous mother. Leah was ready to completely cut ties with the woman she loves over it, Jamie was pretty close too.As opposed to a lot of other stories that either pretend it didn't happen or that it doesn't count because a man was the victim.