1) Karrlson's Gambit Very femdom focused world, that you can carve out a maledom path, but you have to know when (who) to submit to, and if you balance it very well, you can have a very pleasant playthrough that arguably leads to the best outcome. If you try to be full dominate, you'll get your ass handed to you real fast, but if you're too submissive you'll also have a not good time. This might be too much if you can't stand the setting in general though, where the RICH (mostly women) are extremely powerful.
2) Sanguine Rose, this is a completed game, narrative driven and very well done.
3) Sex Valley, this one is surprisingly good because it wasn't meant to cater to either fetish, it just focus on the MC's personality. You choose if your responses are Aggressive, Neutral, or Submissive when you make choices towards a scene, and it will play the scene out based on how you approached it rather than any kind of intended theme.
edit: someone else responded to you instead, also I guess NiF also does a great job balancing it too, so I guess that's four games, or going by them I guess you can remove KG. Either way, those games that can balance it out are too rare, I can list waaaaaaaaaay more that tried and failed.