This isn't a game where all the girls are automatically, permanently moon-eyed over the MC. At least one only views the MC as a convenient, discreet source of the D at first. Another has a reduced opinion of men in general when you meet her. A number are strong-willed in one way or another. If your play style is to alpha-male everyone, or you prefer everyone submissive, you're probably not going to enjoy it. No judgement if that's your preference, it's just the way the game is.
You have to build up their Affection. They're nicer to you as Affection goes up. Each has different ways to increase it, and ways to tank it. And after a certain point in nearly every girl's storyline, Affection starts automatically declining if you don't spend enought time with them, i.e. sleep at their place. (There is a built-in cheat that turns off Affection decline for all the girls except for Obeah, who has quests dependent on her losing all her Affection.)
If you're referring to the femdom/b&d/roleplay scenes, there are only a handful of those. One of them is a one-and-done and the others can be avoided after the first time.
TIP 1: Being "nice" to the girls is generally the fastest way to increase Affection. You do need to lie to some of them at times, but that can be overcome through their storylines.
TIP 2: Don't come inside a girl unless they say it's okay (or don't give you an option). That's a surefire way to tank Affection... Knocking up the girls at the Temple is an exception to this, you have to do that to progress the Main storyline and the fallout when it's discovered is temporary. There are a few other girls not on the Main where you must knock them up against their wills to advance their storylines, but again they come around again if you pursue them further.
