- Jul 30, 2017
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What you just typed is why your perspective is important to me."Yup, Femdom NTR are gonna love what I'm making. The NON-NTR Femdom crowd are going to love what I'm making too, but I'm trying to maximize their content. I don't want them to lose out on even 4% of content. Which is why I need to understand the 'mistress serving drinks in a bar' dilemma in its entirety. "
And this is the problem. NTR is a love it or hate it fetish. You cant hit both crowds.
I tried in my words to explain why. Its not the fetish itself so to speak.. its what the fetish does. Degradation and sleeping around, even just talking about it.. are for some ppl polar opposites of their core values.
Ill spank you, Ill strap you.. Ill throw you on a cross and have you as my plaything. But ask me to choke you while degrading you, and you can pick up you stuff and get out the door.
And if you do it to me? Ill bloody kick you off the bed and throw your stuff at you while you scramble for the door.
Use a strapon on me and fuck me till Im raw.. no problem... if its because you like the control part of it, or just wanna try having a dick. But if its because you dont like men and wanna revenge fuck one.. go get someone else.
I dont have problems with open relationships one bit. But if you use it to degrade me, berate or even sligthly belittle me, youre gone. Instantly.. not even a remote chance for a do-over. You broke my trust. Sleep around with someone not pre-approved by me, same thing.
And thats the crux of it. Ntr cuckolding etc are polar opposites because they rely on using mechanics that are opposite what I value as a person.. not as a fetish, as a person. Thats why its a luv it or hate it fetish.
I dont like pain.. neither recieving nor giving.. But I can see the point, and it doesnt "hurt" me to parttake in them (if I dont trust you, its a no regardless of why or how or who). But NTR/cuckolding, I can only see them as being toxic for both parties. Might be erotic for some, but highly toxic all the same. So I will not in any way parttake. And its not just that I dont want to. Its not a choice. I cannot in any way or form find anything in it that I could find erotic or acceptable.
And I think that is pretty close to why those fetishes are a love it or hate it fetish. Youre either into it, or against.. no grey areas.
I know its a bad comparison, and its not to equate them. But its probably as close to rape and pedophilia to me, as you can come. Because they all build on one simple basis.. Abuse, and thats the kicker.
Do you have time to answer these questions by any chance? (Others are welcome to answer these questions, but only if you love Femdom and strongly dislike and or HATE NTR.)
1) You're playing as a submissive MC, and your mistress is dominant. Why would your dominant mistress choose to stay loyal to you, rather than be fucked by other men? (I can give you possible reasons: (a) you're well endowed (b) you're highly attractive; either cute or highly masculine and rugged. (c) You're able to learn and execute the sexual techniques she wants; ex: impacting her clitoris upon every thrust with your perfectly shaped dick. - - (If you agree with all these reasons, and can't add your own, your approval of my reasons would be appreciated.))
2) If you saw your mistress being submissive to a mistress of higher rank, would that be a complete turn off?
3) Could there ever exist a female, BDSM, dominatrix hierarchy that puts lesser female dominatrix's; of lesser experience, age, financial and social power, into submissive roles serving the more dominant mistress(s)? Ex: A rank 5 dominatrix naturally dominates a rank 4 dominatrix, because the rank 5 has more age, wisdom, femdomming experience, financial and social power than the rank 4. Or would this make the lower rank dominant look weak in the eyes of the subs who serve her? (Rigoku said earlier than no dominatrix should ever be portrayed as submissive. I think he's right, and this is the angle I'm leaning towards, unless someone can link me to an erotic story or femdom game that shows a dominatrix being dominant to those who rank below her, and submissive to those who are above her?)