You claim that there is no correlation between these things?
Far from it. I merely point out that they are levels, and each level requires additional other skills to be applied.
The porn industry is notorious for creating ridiculously corny and unrealistic scenes, where the only thing more preposterous than the obviously unrealistic scenario is the appallingly bad dialogue. According to your logic, that's because they are all virgins...
You can experience something a billion times and yet not understand how it works - as per my example with how much experience you probably have with interacting with people, but not being an expert in psychology, behavioural economics, etc. A rare few (proportionally) have an added level of empathy and insight that allows them to instinctively understand people enough that they can apply manipulation, either to elicit trust and soothe people, or to manipulate them in other ways. This is a second level, beyond mere experience, but the extra understanding is still something more instinctive and personal - you couldn't necessarily explain it to others clearly, or teach it. That would take a third level.
Let me put it this way... a few weeks ago I have played a game (can't remember it's name right now) in which you played a student going to a new college or some other kind of school. You had to option to talk to random people, or sit alone. If you chose to talk to people they would bully you and curse you away.
Now this has to be made by a anti social person. Because this is a fear a lot of people have. Everyone is worried about getting rejected by others. But when you actually start talking to people in real life you realize that most people are happy to talk with others. I have not yet been in a situation where I talked to someone I haven't met yet and they reacted in a negative way.
You can't tell me that this person is someone who has a lot of friends and talks with others all the time. Because if that were the case he wouldn't write such a unrealistic and wrong situation.
I'm trying very hard to think of a single movie or TV show where the trope you describe isn't used. You know, the new kid in the school being rejected by the cool kids clique, and the jocks, etc. I'm drawing a blank.
It is the epitome of an overused trope, but that's not just in the fact that it is used as a lazy shortcut to present something that feels familiar and the audience instantly understand. It is also in the fact that it is grounded in some level of truth, or at least, truthiness. Psychologically and instinctively, people tend to form groups, and part of that is to create shared bonds and shared identity. What makes you a member of the group isn't just what you share, for that would reveal what many are trying not to think about - that they are not the same. No, a part of in-grouping is out-grouping - what the group is against, who it is not.
That group may be the 'Jocks', who in a facility dedicated to academic achievement contain more than a few who, academically, are less gifted and able than some other students. Psychologically, they are far more likely to identify their difference not by what they are weak in (identifying as weak) but by what they are strong in, (which is what prompted some of them to focus on their athletic talents in the first place). Some members of that group however, despite being gifted athletes are also very able students academically. This threatens the belief that some members of the group need that there has to be a trade off, and that they are poor academics because they have focused on their athletic talents. So, an unspoken agreement usually arises where the jocks spurn the geeks and nerds - and the members of the jock group who could easily join the nerds and geeks on talent, play along, choosing to identify with the jock group.
At the exact same time, the nerds who despite amazing academic success, lack athletic prowess, and perhaps are a little too far into the autism spectrum to be charming and witty socially, make the exact same psychological move. While they are smart enough to know they could train physically, they are still lazy assholes who can easily see that it is far easier and less effort to simply pretend it is a choice that they have 'chosen' to specialize in the mind, and that those 'wasting their time' being socially popular are vacuous while those with athletic skills are neanderthals, etc.
Where it gets really interesting though is that people naturally prefer smaller more intimate connections. As their main group grows, they will form sub-groups and cliques within the group. Much of the research studies have blamed this too on ease and laziness. It's easier to remember all those personal histories, tastes, dates, etc with a few people than with a lot of people - so shrinking your social circles to an inner circle (that requires the most maintenance level) to a smaller number of people is simply more economical.