For Rilke, I made a little guide, note I did this as a male character. I don't know if it changes for female characters.
After doing Rilke's ingredient quest, go back to cabin, and join her for the stew.
x=(player action/dialogue choice)
x cop feel
h-scene starts
x Trying to make you feel good
x I'm sorry
x I understand
After seeing Rilke at her son's grave, you have to wait for the next event trigger/leave castle and come back.
x I have to admit something
x I'm sorry Rilke
x I understand if you want me to leave
x You did what you could Rilke
x What happened?
x I'm so sorry
x I think I can manage that
h-scene
x Glad I could make you feel better
Leave cabin, wait for new event trigger/leave castle, comeback to cabin.
x I've been thinking about you a lot too
x sounds good to me!
h-scene
x I really enjoyed that