Though it was indeed written tongue in cheek, Freud would have a good rub if he could read this forum.Laughed pretty hard at the matter of factness of your statement, but 100% agree
If we all knew, what thoughts went on inside of our loved ones’ mind, I doubt we would see them in the same light. I have some pretty “sick” fantasies and dark thoughts (from time to time), but they are just that. Fantasies - nothing I would ever want to live out in real life. I played “Earn Your Freedom” and was repulsed at first - but then “turned on” but that does not mean that would ever want to become a “sissy femboy” - nor do I want to watch my wife being groped by older men (well… we are becoming old ourselves so.. but you get my point) because I was turned on by a NTR game (can not recall the name) - I had to look up NTR, and that is NOT my kink in real life. But to end my ramblings some kinks or fantasies are great to live out (and to each their own, I am in no position to judge as long as no one gets harmed and no children are involved) and some kinks are best kept hidden away in our head (both of them) and only “lived” out through games or porn actors.
Sorry did not mean to hijack the thread I just drifted away.