This is gonna be kinda personal and long so sorry lol, but I'm with you on this. I've been in this situation with basically all of my cousins (and I have a LOT) my entire life. I never lashed out because my family, nor my dad ever took my side. I was treated as the black sheep both publicly and privately. I didn't have the social or economic status of these particular characters, and I was a loner growing up because of this and how my family and cousins, in particular, treated me publicly. It seems that only now that I am moving abroad that they seem to want to rectify things in our late 20's and despite never having lashed out I'm content not letting them. Despite the adversity I faced, I've made something of myself with no strings attached back home. My point is despite that long jabber that I knew even when I was younger that if I stirred the pot, things would be worse off and dig me into a deeper hole. It is kind of funny though knowing what people will do (especially family) to try and make things right after they see you're leaving and never going to come back. They know I'm not coming back even though I haven't told them it's permanent. I wonder where they got the idea from, surely not a guilty conscience?
