I would argue that we got the ''how far away she is from that'' part by all the stuff she did prior to joining our team. The how she got here is a story of her greedily wanting powers and stupidly but knowingly partnering up with bad guys to get them. As a former mole and glaring security weakness to our whole operation, we can't really afford to ''feel her out''. If we have any concerns about her, she should be locked up and confined.To reach a point of forgiveness and understanding among the others, first we have to see how far away from that she really is. It's one thing to be told a person is selfish, but another to see that behaviour. Remember, she doesn't know how bad a condition she is in. The MC has a saviour complex and trying to do right by everyone, whether that's a good thing or not.
We, as a viewer, need to see Felicity at her worst before things change for the better. IMO, the blow up with Chrys is not the lowest point. But it will act as a catalyst for her behaviour to change for the better.
She hasn't so much as turned over a new leaf, as much as begun to realise that she can turn. The MC is showing that to her and committing to helping her (and she is at least showing signs of committing to doing what needs to be done)
The second chance started as soon as we decided we were gonna rehabilitate her. She owes us! I don't really understand what's driving her resistance. How she can be anything but grateful for how much grace the MC and the rest of the team are showing her. When a judge is deciding a criminal's sentence, they don't just look at the crime. They try and determine if the person is contrite or remorseful. If they truly understand the wrongs they've done. Someone who is remorseful would be embracing this opportunity as a second chance they probably don't deserve but absolutely won't let go to waste. She wouldn't be kicking and screaming along the way.