The thing is, by the time a woman reaches adulthood, their hymen (if they even had one to begin with) has already thinned and parted so much there will be no pain, no blood. Talk of bloody, painful defloration gets awfully close to Rule 7.
Well I would say that IRL, there are plenty of reasons for a woman not to have a hymen.
But, this is not real life, this is a fantasy, (and no one yet has been caught in a land slide, no escape from reality...)
But I wouldn't expect a few optional renders for blood would be a huge issue considering how many dev's I've seen do it.
Also solves the issue with many people questioning if so and so is really a virgin like I saw with the High Cleric's daughter.
But in all seriousness, its a fetish, which by definition doesnt exactly make sense. (Japanese anime ruined me at a formative age. lol)
Would be awesome if it is something dev goes with, but I expect nothing.