Wait, are all of you objecting to falling in love with a single mother and becoming a father to her kid?
WTF? Where's the problem in that?
That depends on how you're asking the question I suppose....
in the game? Nothing at all.But judging from the way you asked, I figure you're not asking about it in the context of a game. You're asking what's wrong with it in real life.
And i'm super effing bored right now, and the question sent me down flashback lane, so i'm actually gonna give this a long and thoughtful answer.
Short answer? Lots of things.
The first obstacle comes down to whether or not you yourself happen to be a 'man of means'. Unless you make phenomenal money in your chosen career you live on a modest budget. Children are expensive. So right out of gate you have to seriously ask yourself how much of your own modest income you want to spend on another man's children. Income that could have been saved to open even more prosperous doors for yourself in the future, and thus make yourself that much more appealing as a potential mate to an even more attractive woman down the road.
But even if you can afford to take on a huge financial responsibility that is not yours, there's still other issues to consider.
Is the biological father(or fathers, as tends to be the case with so many skan...err....women, nowadays) still in the picture? Cuz I don't particularly want another man of any kind, let alone one who's definitely fucked my woman at least once...routinely strolling in and out of our lives, or the life of the children I've taken responsibility for. Kids need stability and consistency to thrive. Don't let TV lie to you. Statistically speaking, a successful blended family is the exception, not the rule. NOT having a strange man(or men...) constantly waltzing in and out of the lives of your blended family goes a long way toward making you one of the exceptions.
Then there's the fact that if a woman is a single mother for any reason other than having been widowed, that's a huge flashing yellow light about the nature and character of that woman. Not a red light. It's not an instant deal breaker. It's just a yellow light. The signal for 'Slow down. Approach with caution. Look very carefully at where you are going.'
Because if she is single for any reason other than having been tragically widowed you now need to ask yourself...what kind of man is the biological father?
Was he such a crappy person(abusive, philandering, etc) that she had to leave him OR such a crappy person that he unjustly abandoned her to avoid responsibility? While either case certainly speaks far worse of the man than it does the single mother, these scenarios still raise some very serious and legitimate questions about that single mother's judgment, decision-making skills, and what it was in her own emotional/psychological makeup that ever convinced her to spread her legs for such a shitty guy to begin with, let alone procreate with him. Cuz a woman who not only spread, but bred for such a scumbag is going to be bringing a looooooot of emotional baggage with her into her future relationships, and probably more than a little childhood trauma.
Oooooor....what if the biological father is actually a pretty decent guy?
That's even worse than if he had been a scumbag. Because the only things that make a woman leave a good guy are selfish things. Wanting more money. Wanting a man with six pack abs or a bigger dick. Or self-help feminist bullshit like "I need to find myself", "I need to chase my dreams while I still can", or various other hippy-dippy bullshit phrases that all start with "I need...." or "I want...".
I shouldn't need to explain what's wrong with the character of a woman who tore her children from a good father for no other reason than her own wants or her own personal dissatisfaction. A woman doesn't do that sort of thing at all. A narcissistic monster does.
These are questions you gotta ask yourself and figure out QUICKLY if you're going to become involved with a single mother. Not even for your own sake, but for the sake of those children of hers. Because if you're not willing to accept the financial obligation to another man's children, or you don't want another man who is a potential threat to your relationship routinely walking in and out of your life, or you're not confident you can handle all the potential character and/or judgment flaws in the woman herself, then every moment you spend in the lives of those children makes that moment when you inevitably leave them exponentially more cruel. Every new man who comes into their lives as a potential new father figure and then leaves places a brand new emotional scar on those children. And their mother, for that matter.
So before you even consider getting involved with a single mom be sure you're financially stable enough, emotionally mature enough, and morally strong enough otherwise you do yourself, her, and her children a terrible disservice.
Speaking as someone who wasted a decade and three failed relationships learning all this the hard way.
