There are ways to make it work with out jeopardising your relationship. It depends what means more to you. Vocation or marriage/serious relationship.I just seriously hope some of you never have a job that deals with secret or sensitive information because by some of the logic i'm reading here you'd be telling everyone.
I have a close friend who was offered a Secret Service level job in his country and told them if they want him then his wife has to have clearance as well because he tells her everything. She got her clearance.
When I was appointed to lead a national organisation I had the Board place my wife in a high level position beside me so I was able to be completely honest with her about what I felt I needed to be honest with her about and vice versa.
Although, we both came out of fucked up first marriages that had lots of secrets so we don't do secrets from each other in our relationship so maybe we are weird that way. Shit she even tells me when she gets dick pics. TMI but its the level of honesty in our relationship we want.