I mean, you can be "aggressive" without being a raging douchenozzle. Without being abusive.
Hell, one of the dirty little secrets 9/10 women will never admit to is how much they LIKE aggressive men.
There's a reason the 'bad boy' archtype is so pervasive in storytelling and successful in real life alike. Depending on how you define 'success', i'll grant you.
At first I thought maybe these responses were there to play into Rogue's kinks for being abused, or to maybe even Shift X23's kink to make her want to be more submissive to a 'dominant alpha male'. The fact that every other incarnation of Jean has a not-so-subtle thing for Wolverine shows that even the good girl wants a bad boy. But none of them ever respond well to these options.
And...as they're currently written and framed...I hardly blame them. lol