you have to use the dildo as falyen sorry for not being able to spell after that press the check option.Not that much, you should just let Nel take over and do the fighting for you. It's fast, as long as she doesn't start fucking the enemies, which can be (mostly) avoided if you remove your points in allure, and you can add them back at any time. Grinding the monsters yourself, specially if you want loot when using the treasure finder, isn't really worth it, since Nel will get it faster.