Not really a fan of passive MCs who prefer to just watch, as a voyeur, and much rather that he and FMC are equally active in pursuing their combined desires. That each other's pleasure is as important as their own, in any situation, even if it does mean that one or the other does "sit it out" at some point due to circumstance, but that they would always relish it together somehow. Either during or after. But if together, then they should both be active in decisions and action, neither one passively.
And would agree that any sense of humiliation or unworthiness, direct or indirect, just reeks of cuckoldry to me, of which I am no fan at all. I do not enjoy "the chair", lol.