what is the deal with sleep sex ?

Avaron1974

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Normally alot of your posts make sense and are good but you seem to deal sometimes too much in absolutes, "some" sleep sex is rape but "some" sleep sex is not rape, as an example the game virtues has a scene where a woman comes into the MC room and first looks at him then touches him and finally has sex with him while he is asleep. As i am the one playing the MC i wanted her to have sex with the MC the first night. I can assure you that was not rape and the sleep sex she had with the MC was very welcome.

There are a few game like this where women come into the MC's bedroom while he is asleep and touch him and even have sex with him and for me as a player it is always welcome. So not all sleep sex is rape. Try seeing the bigger picture sometimes :)
Entirely different scenario because that character is, essentially, you. By extension that is consensual because you allow it to happen.

Like I also mentioned earlier, it happens in Harem Hotel where the MC gives the girls permission to perform sex acts to wake him up. It's still consensual.

We're talking about you as a character having sex with another character that asleep, that is rape and will always be rape.

Having sex that is not consensual IS rape. That incest game where the MC has sex with his mother or sister while they are sleeping is raping his family.
 

woody554

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We're talking about you as a character having sex with another character that asleep, that is rape and will always be rape.

Having sex that is not consensual IS rape. That incest game where the MC has sex with his mother or sister while they are sleeping is raping his family.
why do you insist on shitting on every kink you don't have nor understand? I must've seen you kink shaming hundreds of times over the years. most people ignore you hoping you'll one day wise up, but there's just no end to it.
 

F4C430

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sure, why not. but that's not sleep fetish, that's the hard rape fetish where the kick comes from letting the victim know and doing it anyway. you win when she finds out. where as the sleep fetish is the opposite, you're trying to get away WITHOUT the victim finding out. you win when she doesn't find out.
Sleep sex is one party is asleep. It's rape if consent is not given regardless of being found out or not. These are not mutually exclusive concepts.
 

Avaron1974

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why do you insist on shitting on every kink you don't have nor understand? I must've seen you kink shaming hundreds of times over the years. most people ignore you hoping you'll one day wise up, but there's just no end to it.
So, in your eyes, pointing out that rape is rape is now kink shaming?

I think you'll find most of my time is spent shitting on idiots, is this you volunteering as my new toilet?

As for most people ignoring me. Let us also consider I get along with most people that post here except for a group of about 10 to 15. Out of the hundreds that post and millions that use the site, I am more than happy with 10 to 15 ignoring me considering my opinion of them.

However, if I have ever shit on a kink you happen to enjoy then I don't quite know how i'll ever forgive myself.

I don't quite know how i'll ever go on knowing i've hurt and upset grown ass adults over forum posts not liking what they happen to like.

I hope, somehow I can find it in me to forgive myself that men, some of which I have seen refer to themselves in some threads as "alpha's" have been hurt by this tiny girls mean words.





Ah, there it is....

It was a struggle but I somehow made peace with myself.

Thankyou for showing me the error of my ways. Never, in the next 5 or so minutes while I briefly check Steam to see if Succubus is up for sale yet, will I mock another soul on this here forum.
 

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Having sex that is not consensual IS rape.
Theoretical question: If I'm hitting it from the back, and my girl is absolutely bopping like Mcdonalds cuz she lovin it, I mean full on nailing it like a Roman soldier offered a bonus, if I slip out and accidentally enter the old chocolate fudge factory does that qualify since it wasn't consensual?

Just me asking the deep philosophical conundrums of the 21st century, don't mind me...
 
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Avaron1974

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Theoretical question: If I'm hitting it from the back, and my girl is absolutely bopping like Mcdonalds cuz she lovin it, I mean full on nailing it like a Roman soldier offered a bonus, if I slip out and accidentally enter the old chocolate fudge factory does that qualify since it wasn't consensual?

Just me asking the deep philosophical conundrums of the 21st century, don't mind me...
She deff consents on account of her having a hole there to stick it in.

If a nun can still be a virgin after having anal then it also counts as consensual if used during sex.




I am not responsible for any black eyes or bruised testicles received as a result of my words.
 

Icarus Media

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She deff consents on account of her having a hole there to stick it in.

If a nun can still be a virgin after having anal then it also counts as consensual if used during sex.




I am not responsible for any black eyes or bruised testicles received as a result of my words.
Great! i can do the Bucking Bronco position now you said that!
 

Carrera

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Sleep sex is the most baffling fetish tbh. I just don't understand the appeal. Its rape but it doesn't have the power fantasy aspects of rape. Its just a coward sneaking about. Its straight up boring.

- girl doesn't react, dead fish syndrome
- the MC usually lacks any self awareness that he is in fact a rapist,
-its stupid because i don't believe its possible to stick your dick into someone and not have them wake up unless they are passed out from something or have some sort of medical condition

So explain to me the appeal of it and why half the games have it.
I just don't get the appeal of boob jobs.
I don't get the appeal of blowjobs.
I seriously don't get the appeal of footjobs.
I don't get the appeal of butt secs

I bet at least one of your fetishes is questionable by a good percentage of the population. Hell even straight vanilla sex is being bashed on now days so even that is "questionable". go go gadget alphabet community!


People like what they like, and as long as people understand the difference between FICTION AND REALITY it's really nobody's concern but the people who like it.
 
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morphnet

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Entirely different scenario because that character is, essentially, you. By extension that is consensual because you allow it to happen.

Like I also mentioned earlier, it happens in Harem Hotel where the MC gives the girls permission to perform sex acts to wake him up. It's still consensual.

We're talking about you as a character having sex with another character that asleep, that is rape and will always be rape.

Having sex that is not consensual IS rape. That incest game where the MC has sex with his mother or sister while they are sleeping is raping his family.
That is incorrect, the game at no point gives me an option to "pretend to be asleep" and the story clearly says that the MC is not aware of what the woman is doing to the extent that he hides a camera in the room to find out what is happening. So in the game the character does not have to option to give permission and therefore she woman is having sleep sex with the MC.

The only way i could "not" allow it would be to close the game. So it is not a different scenario, according to the game story, the game mechanics and the options available she is having sleep sex with the MC without his knowledge or permission but it is not rape.

"We're talking about you as a character having sex with another character that asleep, that is rape and will always be rape."

That was not the title of the thread, it was "what is the deal with sleep sex", not "players raping sleeping characters", if one ingame character is asleep and another ingame character has sex with them you are saying it is always rape and it isn't always rape.

"That incest game where the MC has sex with his mother or sister while they are sleeping is raping his family." not sure which game you are talking about and not sure how it applies to my reply.

At the end of the day we are not talking about real life, we are talking about games, porn games to be precise, and you are leaving out alot of context. Like the context of the story where the player can read the thoughts of the woman in question and the story tells the player the woman is thinking " wow look at that dick, it's been so long i wish i was riding that now." while she spies on him in the shower. The story is telling the player by definition that they have permission even if the character themselves does not say it to the MC's face.

It's a way to give us a sex scene before players get to the BIG scene where you finally win the woman over.
Spying on a woman changing is peeping and is illegal, grabbing a woman's breasts or butt when you first meet her is sexual harassment, taking upskirt photos, all of these are just meant to give sexy scenes before the big ones. The rules in games are different to real life because it is fantasy and so those things are defined the same way unless the story tells you they are.

Sleep sex in games is not always rape and it's best not to bring real life into fantasy.
 

desmosome

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sure, why not. but that's not sleep fetish, that's the hard rape fetish where the kick comes from letting the victim know and doing it anyway. you win when she finds out. where as the sleep fetish is the opposite, you're trying to get away WITHOUT the victim finding out. you win when she doesn't find out.
I was talking more about the MC here. The women waking up and using force is not important in the distinction here. It is all in the framing of the scene and the game as a whole to me. In most cases, sleep sex is initiated onto a woman, commonly a family member, that absolutely does not consent or even think about a sexual relationship with the MC. This is a heinous act. I want it to be regarded as such by the MC as he is doing the act. What I find comical and stupid is the wishy washy character where the MC really loves his family and is written to be some good kid at heart whose family loves him doing something like this. In the end, people can like whatever they want, but I think it's kind of a sad way to write a story. Basically trying to add some rapey scenes disguised as innocent exploration or something so that it remains inoffensive to some sensitive folks who want to maintain the facade.

This is extremely common in daddy daughter bullshit as well. This is another genre that tries to cater to vanilla "daddies." The father is almost always characterized as some kind of "loving dad," but these same dudes are grooming their daughters and outright raping them in their sleep, all the while maintaining the facade to themselves and the audience that he doesn't belong in jail. As for me, I actually like dark themes. I can also enjoy well written romance or light hearted comedy and such. What I cannot enjoy very much are the ones with an identity crisis.

Let me dial it back and say that it's not even really about the MC, but about the author. If the writing can use this disconnect in an ironic and humorous way, basically being self aware, I can laugh along. Too many times, it just comes off as unironically stupid though.
 

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If a game would include sleep sex as part of a con noncon arrangement or have it as a rape scenario (regardless of whether the MC acknowledges it or rationalises it away; regardless of whether the MC is caught), I'd respect that. Games that have another teenage MC Gropemeister use sleep rape as the first baby steps on a too slow stairway to heaven are unoriginal and kind of depressing, but such is life. It seems most paying customers do not mind.
 
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tanrgith

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It's a fetish that involves a mix of exploiting someone vulnerable and the physical domination of another person

Both elements are fairly common elements in sexual fetishes
 

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I am not sure if rape plays a significant part in this, but I and wifey enjoy it quite a lot.
Of course, the sleeping party wakes up pretty early into it, but we just enjoy initiating sex while the other is asleep.
To me, it is about her being extremely vulnerable. I am not sure what gets her off though, but she is more into it than me.
 
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I am not sure if rape plays a significant part in this, but I and wifey enjoy it quite a lot.
Of course, the sleeping party wakes up pretty early into it, but we just enjoy initiating sex while the other is asleep.
To me, it is about her being extremely vulnerable. I am not sure what gets her off though, but she is more into it than me.
This.
People for some reason assume sleep sex = rape. I fuck my wife when she's sleeping at least a few times a week. She knows, has consented in advance, and basically encourages it.

Usually she wakes up and becomes an active participant but occasionally if she's really tired or took some sleeping pills or whatever, she might not wake up. Although sometimes I think she just pretends that she didn't wake up, because there's no way she could have slept through what I was doing. Once in a while, I have no idea if she woke up or not, and when I ask her about it the next day, she claims to not remember whether she woke up or not.

It's gotten to the point where she doesn't really want to have sex unless I start doing things to her while she sleeps. Hopefully this doesn't lead me down a rabbit hole of sleep sex depravity where I can't get off unless she's sleeping or something. But anyway, the point is that this is consensual, and has nothing to do with being a coward or whatever other stupid shit people think. And from talking to other couples, I know for a fact that this isn't that uncommon.
 
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Sleep sex is "baffling"? Not to judge fetishes, but how about having sexual fantasies about sex while actively cutting off limbs and showering in someone's guts.
Sleep sex? I've seen worse.
 

SkyRebel

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I must intervene in this topic and I must say that in the world of our divine minds (a.k.a. fantasy) sleep sex is not rape and also rape is not rape because reasons.
 
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The deal with fantasized sleep sex is that, in the absence of being able to judge and disapprove of other peoples' real life actions over the Internet, people have devolved into judging people based on the content of their fantasies.

Are you fantasizing about officially approved sex acts or not?

Are the imaginary participants of your sexual fantasies the appropriate gender, race, age, creed, religion, and marital status such that, if the fantasized sex act in the video game suddenly became real, you would not only be considered a law-abiding citizen but also an upstanding one?

Does the imaginary person give imaginary consent for this imaginary sex act?

Is the consensual sex act you're imagining one that you would feel embarrassed if somebody caught you doing it with somebody else/alone?

Feels like the inquisition up in this piece sometimes. Well, don't you worry. Somewhere on this great wide Internet of ours, somebody thinks you're a creep for your sexual proclivities, no matter what they are.
 
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holy hell are some people defensive about their sleep rape fetish.

This is a good response as to my problem with the fetish.

This is extremely common in daddy daughter bullshit as well. This is another genre that tries to cater to vanilla "daddies." The father is almost always characterized as some kind of "loving dad," but these same dudes are grooming their daughters and outright raping them in their sleep, all the while maintaining the facade to themselves and the audience that he doesn't belong in jail. As for me, I actually like dark themes. I can also enjoy well written romance or light hearted comedy and such. What I cannot enjoy very much are the ones with an identity crisis.

Let me dial it back and say that it's not even really about the MC, but about the author. If the writing can use this disconnect in an ironic and humorous way, basically being self aware, I can laugh along. Too many times, it just comes off as unironically stupid though.
From the way i see it there are 2 ways to deal with sleep sex and not have it be stupid.

You have the MC feel really guilty. He knows that what he is doing is wrong but he cant help himself. He can still act like he's a good guy but he knows he isnt.

You have the MC be a manipulative, irredeemable monster. He knows what he is doing is wrong but that just makes it better. The fact that he can pretend to be a good guy after the act also shows to him that he is in fact superior to other people and that they deserve to be his victims.