Hi!
That is why I mentioned in some earlier posts "tactical snooping". Not all snoop events are equal. The early ones are unproblematic, it is the later ones where you have to be tactical in snooping. You might remember that I said that snooping and seeing(!) it plays in a parallel universe.
For instance, if you let your wife stay and encourage her at the christmas party and you do not snoop this event (choosing "never mind" or so), it is far more tame in results than if you snoop it visually! That is important.
For a loyal romance or happy sharing (even a fight an antagonist) path, it is important that you either let her come home from the christmas party early or encourage to stay, but NOT snoop it. Because in both cases your wife does NOT gain "drug haze". If she gains it, you´ve done it wrong.
Or take the Valentine´s day date with Jamal. Here even snooping it is unproblematic, if you restrained yourself when it comes to snooping earlier.
Depending on what path you are on, there are snoop events you can see without problems, some you can balance and some you should never watch (and negate, like e.g. you should ALWAYS win the running event on the Kati path and then get your wife to do some naughty fun, if you are on the romance, happy sharing and besting an antagonist routes!).