Missing half or more of your release dates, ghosting your audience, and lying through your teeth on the regular, THAT makes it a train wreck.The base emotion behind complaining is anger.
And taking joy in other people's (perceived*) failures is disdainful.
If it didn't matter to you you wouldn't be doing either of those things. You're negatively emotionally invested.
*sidenote: I doubt he sees WVM as a train wreck. If you sort the F95 game browser by likes, it takes the 11th spot. If that's a train wreck then 99% of all adult games are train wrecks.
Laughing about it is not taking joy in it necessarily. It's far healthier than getting upset about it. And I haven't complained yet IIRC.
You seem overly invested in it, to the extent of being willing to suck the ass of BD. It's cool you like the game, I'm glad you're excited, but making so many wrong assumptions of almost everyone you've been interacting with... at some point that is a you thing.
I don't want to see any dev struggle to keep their shit together. I can only imagine the effort that goes into most of these projects, but when you ban the people making criticism (from discord as an example), that won't be beneficial for anyone