AverageHalfwit
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- Oct 20, 2019
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So, in this specific case of Laura's first sexual interaction with Luca and not in relation with an abstract (and horrible) notion of rape - she wasn't actually cheating ? She was just doing a relationshipy social function ? Isn't that kinda blame shifting from the cheater's guidebook ( "it was only the tip", "it didn't mean much", "I was thinking about you the whole time", "he/she is just a friend", "I was feeling neglected", "I was feeling pressured"). I mean if it's rape of course cheating is excluded.Folks like to counter rape by coercion and rape by deception with slippery slope arguments that normally fall into a pit of argumentum ad absurdum but the fact remains that consent as a concept is distinct from mere acquiescence. Because someone acquiesces to sex they have not consented. Consent must be an affirmation of willingness, not an ability to comply. Laura doesn't even fully acquiesce, merely cooperates under protest. Just because Luca expresses incredulity when Laura enjoys sex doesn't mean that we must agree with him. The person who is raped by coercion's enjoyment of sexual intercourse is irrelevant to consent, which cannot be given ex post facto. Oh, and only Laura gets to decide whether what happens to her body is consensual or not and her relationship status is also an irrelevance. If we are to agree with Luca that Laura wasn't raped when she clearly stated she was (would not consent and feels that she is given no other viable option but to cooperate) means that we are adopting a deeply depraved point of view when it comes to the very concept of human agency and bodily autonomy.
I mean when you have the option, a very valid option and at all time available, to say no to a situation, and you still go for the situation, all consequences ignored, is it right to get a "there there, you poor victim" ? Even more so, to be put on the same level with authentic abuse survivors, to receive the same empathy ?
I guess I'm not educated enough on this matter, but I just cannot see this specific interaction as being rape.
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