Are you ashamed of your kinks/fetishes?

[ScroxDieded]

I was thinking about this earlier and commented the below on a thread about NTR. I'm somewhat ashamed of this particular kink and wouldn't share with anyone that it turns me on (although only in games, hentai etc - no real life).

"I was actually just thinking about creating a topic to discuss this. I find NTR fascinating and I'm not sure why. I'm happily married and wouldn't get off on having my wife cheating on me or being stolen by another guy, but for some reason when it happens in hentai or games it triggers a very specific part of me that, although being sorry for the guy being NTRed just finds it too hot for a girl being slowly corrupted through various means, usually blackmail - though in hentai that's usually connected to rape. And I remember the exact moment when that kink got into me.
I don't know how many guys here are into hentai, but I occasionally take a look and when Kedamono-tachi No Sumu Ie De
was released I was drawn to the drawings and "more life-like" animation. This is a terrible story where a guy, whose mother was a sexual slave of his father (and he's living with the said fat, disgusting father) has to bring in his cute and innocent girlfriend to live with him (and, by default, his father and brother - from another mother - also a piece of shit) because her apartment burned down. It doesn't take long for the father to abuse the girl, take a picture and use that as a way in to rape her everyday for a long time until she just... Well, you know, becomes a sex slave as well (the brother gets in on the action too on the second episode) and ends his relationship with him AND asks him to leave the house because he's not welcome there anymore. I mean... It's heartbreaking. But the guy's such a soft, beta, nice guy that just makes it worse. And way hotter for some reason. Watching the girl on various situations being abused and slowly getting into it, getting corrupted and losing herself more and more just clicked something for me and thus the kink had taken root.
So although for me it's not something I'd enjoy in real life, occasionally I like to play games where the MC is NTRed. I don't know why, it appeals to a dark part of me, it's really weird.
So games kind of like Anna Exciting Affection are hot to me on occasion "

So yeah, I'm into it, I don't know why and although I consider myself to be very open sexually I'm somewhat ashamed of this.

 

[F4C430]

So although for me it's not something I'd enjoy in real life, occasionally I like to play games where the MC is NTRed. I don't know why, it appeals to a dark part of me, it's really weird.

Separation of fantasy from reality. Do you also play games where you shoot and kill people? You're not going to do that IRL right? But i bet you enjoy it in a game setting though.

As far as being ashamed IRL, depends on the fetish. In the appropriate conversation, i don't mind admitting to some of them but others are best left secret.

 

[262177]

Most people don't really know why they are into X or Y and shouldn't try too hard to delve into the matter unless they're genuinely curious or the fetish appears to be dangerous in their current mental state and they are still aware of it. A situation or experience may have triggered it, but then it's usually a bit too personal.

Here is a non-exhaustive list of fetishes and turn-offs. I'm far from proud of them but I'm not ashamed of telling to anyone who asks. Which means I'm both open to being called a freak (which is true) and not advocating my own fetishes (to each their own) nor "kinkshaming". All of the following is for drawn 2D and in a completely legal context.

Fetishes in no particular order: loli, necrophilia, blood, ero guro in general, scat, saliva, smell, yuri, females only, femdom, facesitting, humiliation, role reversal, age difference, younger on older female, farting.

Turn-offs: Anything with male nudity or phallic content of any kind including clothed content, furry.

Neutral: Everything else.

To answer your concern about that comment, society is quick to judge, belittle and make things taboo, both in real life and on the Internet. To make things worse, from what I could tell - I'm not exactly an expert, and completely neutral to it - the NTR community seems to be a particularly divided one, effectively turning NTR in general into a sensitive topic. Some communities lose their NTR "moderators" pretty quickly (or they literally refuse to volunteer for it) for that reason (when fights happen all the time, it's hard to find a janitor masochistic enough to keep things under control, especially with limited tools or with the only option being to nuke everything on sight, as that is overkill).

If you believe the kink isn't justified, bear in mind there are kinks for just about everything, and some may stand as ridiculous, outlandish or mindblowing to people without the fetish. Now if you meant that in a social context, that's understandable. With enough tolerance and responsibility, this is something anyone can overcome even in a work environment, as surprising as it may sound. Basic social standards and fair laws still matter.

The short version? Just because you enjoy getting "cuckolded" or "cuckolding" in a fantasy universe doesn't mean you should be ashamed. It's actually more likely for such fetishes to be associated with shame because they involve it.

Edit: Ninja'd. The shorter version is yes, fantasy and reality are different things, but there are SM dungeons with fully consenting adults defining what they can and cannot do so everything stays under control.

 

[Lerd0]

Are you ashamed of your kinks/fetishes?

 

[262177]

The image took a damn long time to load for some reason so I was like wait what, Lerd0 lol.
There should be the alt text tag for forum hiccups... (While the picture is loading or if the user's browser is shit and somehow can't display it.)

Now that's a short version!

 

[ScroxDieded]

Most people don't really know why they are into X or Y and shouldn't try too hard to delve into the matter unless they're genuinely curious or the fetish appears to be dangerous in their current mental state and they are still aware of it. A situation or experience may have triggered it, but then it's usually a bit too personal.

Here is a non-exhaustive list of fetishes and turn-offs. I'm far from proud of them but I'm not ashamed of telling to anyone who asks. Which means I'm both open to being called a freak (which is true) and not advocating my own fetishes (to each their own) nor "kinkshaming". All of the following is for drawn 2D and in a completely legal context.

Fetishes in no particular order: loli, necrophilia, blood, ero guro in general, scat, saliva, smell, yuri, females only, femdom, facesitting, humiliation, role reversal, age difference, younger on older female, farting.

Turn-offs: Anything with male nudity or phallic content of any kind including clothed content, furry.

Neutral: Everything else.

To answer your concern about that comment, society is quick to judge, belittle and make things taboo, both in real life and on the Internet. To make things worse, from what I could tell - I'm not exactly an expert, and completely neutral to it - the NTR community seems to be a particularly divided one, effectively turning NTR in general into a sensitive topic. Some communities lose their NTR "moderators" pretty quickly (or they literally refuse to volunteer for it) for that reason (when fights happen all the time, it's hard to find a janitor masochistic enough to keep things under control, especially with limited tools or with the only option being to nuke everything on sight, as that is overkill).

If you believe the kink isn't justified, bear in mind there are kinks for just about everything, and some may stand as ridiculous, outlandish or mindblowing to people without the fetish. Now if you meant that in a social context, that's understandable. With enough tolerance and responsibility, this is something anyone can overcome even in a work environment, as surprising as it may sound. Basic social standards and fair laws still matter.

The short version? Just because you enjoy getting "cuckolded" or "cuckolding" in a fantasy universe doesn't mean you should be ashamed. It's actually more likely for such fetishes to be associated with shame because they involve it.

Edit: Ninja'd. The shorter version is yes, fantasy and reality are different things, but there are SM dungeons with fully consenting adults defining what they can and cannot do so everything stays under control.

Yeah, I suppose you're right. But I say I'm ashamed to admit that kink, for instance, to my SO or pretty much anyone else in a social environment where people either aren't familiar with or don't like/enjoy games/hentai, etc - fantasy world, as you've said - and so I wouldn't do it. Of course in a different context where there's people such as yourself that's very open about your fantasy world kinks, it would be a lot easier to admit and discuss/talk about it openly.
But since outside of the internet I don't have anyone in my social circles that are into hentai, adult games, etc - to the best of my knowledge.

 

[ScroxDieded]

Separation of fantasy from reality. Do you also play games where you shoot and kill people? You're not going to do that IRL right? But i bet you enjoy it in a game setting though.

As far as being ashamed IRL, depends on the fetish. In the appropriate conversation, i don't mind admitting to some of them but others are best left secret.

I agree with you. Of course I enjoy causing mayhem in virtual worlds as much as the next guy and I naturally don't ever think about doing it IRL. But yeah, admitting the fetish openly or not would depend largely on the environment and situation. If I could, for instance, take everyone here to a bar I think we could openly discuss any kink. But doing it in a different environment would be very difficult.

 

[Agul]

ScroxDieded
You might be more into corruption and sexual competition, maybe there's more to it.
I left a huge reply to that NTR thread you responded to if you have the time.

 

[Uthuriel]

Are you ashamed of your kinks/fetishes?
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NTR when?

 

[thatguy49]

I wouldn't say I'm ashamed because I know they're just fantasies, but I also will keep them to my grave. I've never told anyone in real life about my more taboo kinks, this includes past girlfriends. I'm a fairly vanilla person in real life, thus I am indeed anxious what would occur if people found out some of my kinks(I'm still closeted about my bisexuality, let alone taboo kinks lol).

If there was any hint of shame, it was that I felt some guilt about some kinks that heavily clash against my real life beliefs. It made me question if I was only pretending to be a "good person" and if I had a darker side to myself. Eventually I realized that the overthinking was nonsense because these are simply fantasies and it's likely the strong contrast to my real beliefs is what makes it so taboo to me.

An example is that I'm extremely awkward with kids and don't like having anything to do with them in real life, yet I have a breeding/pregnancy kink. Another is that I am a fierce advocate for making a more egalitarian society, but I do like some slavery and subtly sexist content(not harsh abuse, but obviously slavery itself is still bad lol). Lastly, I like incest content, though I don't find anyone in my own family attractive. It is funny sometimes when hanging out with some friends and they'd be making fun of the spike in "step-incest" porn and how gross it is, meanwhile I'm nervously laughing along lol.

 

[Uthuriel]

Fuck no. Why would I be ashamed?

 

[Lerd0]

NTR when?

now.....

 

[ScroxDieded]

ScroxDieded
You might be more into corruption and sexual competition, maybe there's more to it.
I left a huge reply to that NTR thread you responded to if you have the time.

Nah, I'm really into NTR type B (occasionally, also C)too. That often comes together with corruption, though.

I saw your reply, it was awesome!

 

[Avaron1974]

I'm a tiny lesbian submissive that likes to be tied down and fucked into a drooling mess by my far more muscular girlfriend that I couldn't fight back against even if I wanted to.

Most of my kinks revolve around that and various other things she has me do.

Nothing to be ashamed of.

I don't have any odd ones I feel I need to keep hidden. My girl knows the porn I like and that I play adult games.

Don't think I ever hid anything from her but i've never much cared about what people think of me, the only opinion that matters is my cats and as long as I feed them they love me .... or at least pretend to.

 

[Rando Civ]

Hell no.

I don't want to fuck my mom or any of my grandmas, but I absolutely love incest porn that involves mothers and sons or grandmothers and grandsons.

For my other fetishes, I have been in a couple of femdom sessions to see how it feels and I absolutely loved it (none of them involved pegging, thank fucking god). Granted she was a 5'4 dommy mommy and i'm sort of a big guy, but I think that's exactly why I like it. Not having the control and just relaxing for once and letting her do whatever she wants to my body, was extremelly liberating and arousing.

As for corruption... well, I kinda like to be aggressive sometimes and choke and spit a bit.

Size difference, bigger women on smaller men or big men on smaller women are also something I absolutely adore yet would probably never get the chance to get it on with a woman who is bigger or taller than me.

 

[ScroxDieded]

I'm a tiny lesbian submissive that likes to be tied down and fucked into a drooling mess by my far more muscular girlfriend that I couldn't fight back against even if I wanted to.

Most of my kinks revolve around that and various other things she has me do.

Nothing to be ashamed of.

I don't have any odd ones I feel I need to keep hidden. My girl knows the porn I like and that I play adult games.

Don't think I ever hid anything from her but i've never much cared about what people think of me, the only opinion that matters is my cats and as long as I feed them they love me .... or at least pretend to.

Kudos to having such a healthy mentality regarding your kinks. And congratulations on having found someone that not only completes you in your darkest fetishes, also either doesn't mind or participates in your porn fantasies.
Sadly I don't think I have the same luck. Although my wife is very open sexually, I worry about telling her about some stuff because she's not a gamer and doesn't watch much porn. She only recently had contact with hentai and we're going from there, hopefully to get to where we can talk about the darkest kinks we have.

 

[ScroxDieded]

Hell no.

I don't want to fuck my mom or any of my grandmas, but I absolutely love incest porn that involves mothers and sons or grandmothers and grandsons.

For my other fetishes, I have been in a couple of femdom sessions to see how it feels and I absolutely loved it (none of them involved pegging, thank fucking god). Granted she was a 5'4 dommy mommy and i'm sort of a big guy, but I think that's exactly why I like it. Not having the control and just relaxing for once and letting her do whatever she wants to my body, was extremelly liberating and arousing.

As for corruption... well, I kinda like to be aggressive sometimes and choke and spit a bit.

Size difference, bigger women on smaller men or big men on smaller women are also something I absolutely adore yet would probably never get the chance to get it on with a woman who is bigger or taller than me.

Interesting experience. I don't know if I'd like it, but it might be just the thing.
And I'm with you on the aggressive stuff.

 

[rk-47]

Mine that arent vanilla appear to be bukkake and certain degrees of cumflation, i wouldnt say im "ashamed" since bukkakes can be achieved by one person realistically anyways and cumflation is just impossible so irl i could only ever do a bukkake but i understand if people find cumflation gross or weird since the man/creature/animal would fill up a hot babes stomach with thick seed, and i believe women have that fetish too to be filled up like that

 

[apatheticcreative]

No shame at all. I maintain a healthy and distinct separation of fantasy from reality. Of course there are some fetishes that are considered socially taboo, so it's best to keep those ones to yourself, not that you should be openly talking about even your most vanilla fetishes in polite company. Still, as long as your fantasies remain fantasies, there's nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[paust.alex]

I have nothing to be ashamed of, I'm not some NTR fan.