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Ren'Py Babysitters [v0.1.2] [T4bbo]
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Can't even begin to imagine what hes going through right now. He should do what is right for him and his family, forget about making the game unless he finds comfort or distraction in making games then go for it.
It is a pity that you cannot give the project to someone else, and just take care of your wife's health.
- Jun 3, 2020
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I love this game, so I'd be lying if I said I didn't want T4bbo to continue working on it. From his update though sounds like he isn't up to it anymore, which is understandable. Wonder if others on his team could manage the game temporarily?
I don't know. To me it sounded like he was ready to start putting more time to it. He asked supporters possibly to get support or maybe permission to do so as he may feel he's not allowed right now with the situation. I imagine he's very conflicted at the moment.
Your wife is 10000* more important that a porn game. Take care of your wife bro do not leave her side untill she is 100% fine.
- Apr 23, 2017
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Problem is... she will not be 100% fine anymore, she's missing big chunk of her brain... if she can do 5% of what she was capable back then we will be lucky enough... it's already miracle that she survived, because that kind of bullet trajectory survives less than 1% of people who shot themselves in the head.
It's f*cking painful to admit, but I've already lost my wife... after traumatic brain injury like that she will be different person alltogether, probably with cognitive capabilities of 2 months old toddler. I'm not even sure I want her to reach higher cognitive capabilities for her to realise what has happened and what she has done. It would be hell on earth for her...
It's more about securing that for rest of her life she's not suffering... her diappers are changed, she is not hungry or thirsty etc... and if we're lucky, we can get some kind of non verbal communication with her.
ImmortalNight is right, I don't know what should I do... I'm facing toughest moral crossroad in my life. Brain tells me to work on game and spend less time with wife... heart tells me fuck the game, spend all your time in the upcoming year with wife and hope for the best. I'm more used to listening to my brain rather than heart...
Is there any operation that is possible? I feel for you heavily, and I wish I could aid you in any way I can.
Maybe I'm wrong, but from this post and the other one on reddit it kind of sounds like you already know what you want to do, but feel guilty about it?
Totally understandable that you're conflicted about this, just hope fan response isn't too big of a factor. I think most of your fans support your decision to step away from the game if that is what you choose to do, but will also be happy if you decide to continue working on the game.
I've seen some posts from people here where it almost seems like they are shaming you for wanting to work on your game, which isn't helpful. You shouldn't have to worry about what other people think, I'd say just do what's best for you.
- Sep 28, 2018
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You can do both, spend time with her and in your off-time you can work on the game while she is with other caretakers. You don't need to completely pause your life or feel guilty that you want to work on the game. Working on the game can be an escape for you too.
A similar thing happened to my cousin. He was stabbed and lost oxygen to the brain which led to brain damage. His body lived but he was never the same person again. It's soul wrenching. My heart truly goes out to you.
T4bbo : I never wrote anything here, but feel like you are very open for opinions on your story. I think the part you should take care of, is the part of you that hurts the most. Your heart, your soul and even your brain all seem to suffer. You have to find out, how to do them good. Maybe it is spending time with your wife, maybe its getting lost in the game, or maybe getting lost making in an even deeper, more meaningful to you version of the game, maybe its something totally different or a mix of everything. What you dont need in my opinion is preassure from outside, you shouldnt feel responsible for the game or us, your followers. What warms my heart is the support you get from your patreons and the kindness all over this forum here. There are no expectations, feel free to do whatever you feel like. This also means that you dont have to feel the least bad to continue working hard on the game IF it makes YOU feel good and not just numb. What is clear by now, is that your audience is not a bunch of creeps, more like a noble society of very kind Gentlemen - i think that is quite impressive 
I also liked the game a lot, especially the girl in the cliffhanger at the end and definetly it is more artistic than it will ever get credit for. Take your time, dont feel responsible for us, do what you need to so. (English is not my native language, I hope that I dont sound so weird.. much love!)
I also liked the game a lot, especially the girl in the cliffhanger at the end and definetly it is more artistic than it will ever get credit for. Take your time, dont feel responsible for us, do what you need to so. (English is not my native language, I hope that I dont sound so weird.. much love!)
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Hey T4bbo, i dont know if you will read this. But i would suggest that you are looking for an therapist. There is nothing wrong with it. You would go to a doctor if you dont feel well and your mental health is also important. I kinda work in this field, so i would highly recommend to get help.
You are in a terrible situation. We say that there are 4 big tragedies in life. Divorce, death, illness and losing the job. As far as i can see, you are dealing with a kind of death and illness and it affects your job. You will have to go through a lot and you have to deal with the "stages of grief and loss". I know it from my studies and from my personal life. I also lost someone (2 times) and the best thing i could do is looking for help.
Without knowing you are your situation in detail, i would recommend that you take care of your wife, but you also have to take care of yourself. You need time to digest, but you also need to to understand, that your life isnt over now. Take your time, but dont stop living.
I wish you all the best and please dont be afraid to ask for help from a professional.
/sry for mistakes, english isnt my native language
You are in a terrible situation. We say that there are 4 big tragedies in life. Divorce, death, illness and losing the job. As far as i can see, you are dealing with a kind of death and illness and it affects your job. You will have to go through a lot and you have to deal with the "stages of grief and loss". I know it from my studies and from my personal life. I also lost someone (2 times) and the best thing i could do is looking for help.
Without knowing you are your situation in detail, i would recommend that you take care of your wife, but you also have to take care of yourself. You need time to digest, but you also need to to understand, that your life isnt over now. Take your time, but dont stop living.
I wish you all the best and please dont be afraid to ask for help from a professional.
/sry for mistakes, english isnt my native language
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I am so sorry to hear this happened to your wife and you. Do whatever you need to cope with everything, nothing else matters more.
Again, I am so sorry.
I don't know how or when but I hope ur dark times will go away it sad seein u suffer u didn't deserve this
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dear Taboo: my deepest condolences to you. No one of us can ever comprehend what you must be going through right now. If there ever was a catch22, here is one. My only advice is to also get help yourself, because whatever you do - even temporarily -, you will most certainly feel: guilty - like you have just expressed. And constant guilt will eventually break a man, every time.
As non-intuitive as it may sound: put yourself in first, because you are in for the long round. Think of it as a marathon forced upon you. If that were the task, you'd surely run slow(er), take every break you need and make sure you always have enough energy left to go the entire distance. Emotional marathons we tend to treat as if everything - and everybody - else has priority. but then you won't get very far.
Everyone would despair in your situation, so please at least give your own self as much attention as you can. IT is hurt too. She is missing a big chunk of her brain, but you are missing a big chunk of your heart.
We all here wish you all the best in this f**ked up situation.
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- Apr 24, 2020
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I hope you can find a level of peace with what has happened moving forward. I've struggled with mental illness most of my life, so I feel for you.
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T4bbo
In regards to your real life situation; Your story is a very sad and tragic one, and you have my deepest sympathies. There is no simple solution to your complex set of problems. The best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time, and follow the path that makes you happiest. That being said you don't need to maintain all of your focus on either your game development, or on your wife. Do what feels right for your own mental health.
What I would do / feel if I were put in your situation as I understand it is the following:
(Which in no way is a suggestion for you to do the same, simply what I would do in your shoes.)
I would feel as if I am either divorced or a widower. The vows say "Until Death Do Us Part", and when someone puts a gun to their head and pulls the trigger with the intent to commit suicide that is as good as saying "We are divorced. Our relationship is over." in my book.
Perhaps some long term care facility for her, I would visit every so often, but as for me I would try my best to move on with my life. Perhaps take some time off of work to focus on my mental health / self improvement and eventually start dating again when it feels right.
In regards to your real life situation; Your story is a very sad and tragic one, and you have my deepest sympathies. There is no simple solution to your complex set of problems. The best advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time, and follow the path that makes you happiest. That being said you don't need to maintain all of your focus on either your game development, or on your wife. Do what feels right for your own mental health.
What I would do / feel if I were put in your situation as I understand it is the following:
(Which in no way is a suggestion for you to do the same, simply what I would do in your shoes.)
I would feel as if I am either divorced or a widower. The vows say "Until Death Do Us Part", and when someone puts a gun to their head and pulls the trigger with the intent to commit suicide that is as good as saying "We are divorced. Our relationship is over." in my book.
Perhaps some long term care facility for her, I would visit every so often, but as for me I would try my best to move on with my life. Perhaps take some time off of work to focus on my mental health / self improvement and eventually start dating again when it feels right.