Roger-a-Dale
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This kind of depends on how one defines a flaw. I'd say those were Bella's mistakes rather than flaws. And I wouldn't say she is all that selfish. In a certain sense everyone is constantly selfish. All our actions and choices have motives behind them and there is no such thing as a selfless motive. You either want to make something happen or to prevent something from happening, but the desire is your own. The trick is that just because we are selfish, what we want isn't necessarily harmful to others. People can want the same thing for their own reasons. People's desires are not necessarily in conflict.Let's do something "fun"! Instead of singing your favorite girl's praises, highlight one of her flaws. If you say she has no flaws, then you're a bitch of the highest order
I'll start: Bella has no flaws
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What we usually mean by the word selfish is someone who is uncaring about how others are affected by their actions and I don't think this applies to Bella. She never wanted Jill to get hurt and would have prevented it if she could have. Lying about dating regulations is a bit more obviously a mistake, but I'd call that cowardice rather than selfishness. Bella was afraid and made a mistake.
Most of the obstacles on Bella's path are based on fear, but there is a difference between being a coward and being afraid. It is reasonable to fear the things Bella is afraid of and most of the time she manages to keep her head. She had a moment of cowardice and lied, but those moments are not a constant.
Another obstacle with Bella is her lingering attachment to James, but calling this a flaw would be selfishness. Bella is capable of devotion and calling that a bad thing just because it's directed at someone else would be a judgement based solely on its effect on one's self. So just because there is a problem doesn't mean there is a flaw. Or even a mistake. Unless it turns out that marrying James in the first place was a mistake on Bella's part. Which might actually be the case.
But moving on. What would I call Bella's flaws? Well the first that comes to mind is her temper. It's not as bad as Sage's, but it does get the better of her at times. Second she tends to be judgemental. That is to say she judges people rather harshly. Her assessments tend to be accurate, but the criticism is excessive. She should be more tolerant of people's flaws. Including her own. Which brings us to her third flaw. She is overly self-condemning. No-one gets it from Bella worse than Bella. She is her own worst enemy.
