My take on affinity is like the difference between me and my best friend in college. We're both very similar looking, have very similar senses of humor, and were both good students. However, overall, I was more the Chick, he the Dik. He easily hooked up with all kinds of hot women who generally ignored me, but I was the one girls wanted to have a relationship with. I could hug girls and they viewed it innocently, but if he hugged a girl, it was viewed sexually. These perceptions seemed less about the way either of us acted or talked, and more about the vibe we gave off. There was something intangible about my friend that made women want to fuck him and something about me that made women want to date me (or ignore me). In a few cases, these were the same women, but usually not. You guys know what I'm talking about?