Yeah... not even close. Pleasure is pleasure, wherever and however you obtain it. You can give it, you can receive it. You can even do both at the same time. Personal stigmas on what biological gender you obtain it with are just that - stigmas.
"Gay" being pegged by a woman? I don't even.... Hell, even occasionally taking it from a guy isn't gay. GAY is a full-on life and partner choice of the same sex. And it's actually called homosexual. Not even Hetero-flexible is what you're describing as "gay".
Sounds more like a hangup - you might want to reconsider whether that's going to do you good in the future or not.
In the meantime, many of us appreciate the wide variation of content in the game, trap or no.