Sticking with this thread (and it's newer iteration) is worth reading for what you want. You'll find that we in general react very negatively to when people want NTR, because frankly there's a metric fuckton of it in comparison to netorase (NTRS as it's often abbreviated).
Swinging is even rarer, but if you find good stuff, share it. But all to often NTRS turns into NTR, and if it doesn't, you'll get people clamoring for a NTR route, which we generally rage against. Even a few of the swinging games I've found will often have a route where the MC gets just flat out cucked and it turns into pure NTR. (Which for many ruins the entire game, period. I've seen it put as: 'If there's a route that exists where the girl betrays the MC to that extent due to just a big cock or whatever, it means she has the possibility of doing it during the 'pure' route and it's just a matter of time until she leaves him')
So yes, people have different tastes, some people like humiliation involved with NTRS, some don't. Some like it when for example the LI goes raw with others, but the MC still wears a condom. Some don't. Also, who gets her first time is often something that people like/dislike.
The thing is, whether you like NTR or not, in threads (and games, like Fanorase's) like these that are for NTRS, we're pretty aggressive in keeping NTR out, because if you want a NTRS game that turns into NTR, you have THOUSANDS.
Pure NTRS with no NTR? there's like less than 20.
And btw, if Fanorase won't plug his game, then, fuck, I will lmao. There are 2 in-development NTRS games that i follow religiously and that's one of them.
https://f95zone.to/threads/my-girlfriend-fulfills-my-netorase-dreams-v0-2-fanorase.211963/
https://f95zone.to/threads/vulgar-reverie-v0-06-saxonado-studios.200342/
These are early in development, but from the prior conversation you had, they're probably exactly in line with your tastes (they are for me!)