There's a big difference though between Brienne's rape by Tobs, or even that shit with Azzy by Skow where she actually enjoyed stuff, and Atugia's scene with Arona/Brint/whoever else by Gardefort, in that in one case it's another writer getting the character plain wrong (or frothing and lashing out) while in the other it's the character's creator just dead to rights introducing new angles to her.
In Ryn's case it's all a mess because for the longest time she didn't even have a main writer so she just comes off as a schizo, but say in Brienne's case i will keep not giving a shit about any scene that gets her wrong until it's from Wsan. Because if it's Wsan writing that shit then it's not that he's getting her wrong, it's that i was, which is the whole point.