Despite your intention, I have to know from where this "traditional" usage originated from. As I researched the origins of the word, I was swiftly reminded of my disdain for dictionaries, or rather the prescriptive nature often attributed to them rather than the intended descriptions of written word. Simultaneously I cursed my younger self for not stopping my parents from trashing thier massive 18th century dictionary.
"Traditional" probably wasn't the right word, because all of this is still fairly new and I doubt it'd be reflected in an 18th century dictionary. But you can easily find the meaning I intended if you do a simple "fetishes vs kinks" google search, it'll turn up various institutions, therapists, and websites talking about it and complaining about how people conflate fetish with kink:
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The top links on the first page of google about it. But you can find your definition in addition to others - one which I just came across a few times from random posters, for example, is
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, inexplicable attraction to that which would normally be considered inherently non-sexual (such as innocuous objects or even certain parts of the body, like feet). I don't think conflating fetishes with paraphilia is a particularly good idea (though I'd say one could obviously have paraphiliac kinks or fetishes, of course), but nevertheless, I see people commonly think the two are the same. In other words, language is a bunch of bullshit and you have to figure out what people mean by looking at the whole of what they're saying and how they're saying it rather than simply taking their words literally as you'd find them in a dictionary. Same as it ever was, huh?
I wish there were easy fixes or even mildly workable solutions to some of the disorders people helplessly find themselves with...be it yours, or attraction to animals, or the various types of body dysphorias, or any other. Such is not our lot in life, unfortunately.