Femdom and Maledom are not only both optional and gated behind the witch/demon alignments, but they're also per character. So if you feel like it fits the vibe of one character but not another, there you go. Of course, you can't mix them because they're alignment-gated, but they're there to add a little extra variety to the sex scenes if nothing else.
Of course, other events in the story outside of the sex scenes (such as the aforementioned incident early in the game) can come across a certain way, but at the end of the day the story just is what it is. If the tone of the story isn't your thing that's fine, I'm not trying to trick anyone into playing something they don't like.