I do not consider 'NTR' to be a fetish, since fetishism is more related to objects,
materials or parts of the body (one's own and or also those of one's partner).
So I would rather think of it as a
genre, just like some people are into action and
comedy and others are into horror, splatter, psycho-thriller or drama, for example.
In a sense, NTR could perhaps be compared to a melodrama, a genre that deals
with emotional and inner-mental conflicts.
Now a/my little statement on (NTR), here focused on Netorare.
From my point of view, NTR does not deal with cheating, but rather the withdrawal of love,
the separation of an emotional bond in a state of powerlessness.
In a sense, both are powerless here, both
- the man who has to watch his wife being screwed by another man, and
- the woman who can no (longer) escape the influence of the other man.
The desire of so many to tone down NTR (here Netorare), to make it more harmless,
is in comparison (to me), like trying to have a happy ending in a psychothriller melodrama.
It is entirely possible -> while in the end everything was just a bad dream and everything is fine;
but that will probably get boring in the long run.
So why do people watch comedies?
- because they want to be made to laugh.
Why do people watch dramas?
- because they want made to be sad and to cry.
Why do people watch psychothrillers?
- because they want to be get frightened.
Splatter, horror, action, romance, crime ... etc. everything is ultimately for entertainment.
And to include my comparison to the melodrama again ...
Why do people watch this? Because they are masochists?!
- The viewers are often confronted with their own fears, longings and losses.
It even helps some to deal with or face these feelings.
Sex films, porn movies/clips and porn games often become monotonous after a while
because they often follow a same boring pattern.
Porn games here less often, if they have a plot ... and these often also use the genres
mentioned above - horror, crime, comedy, action, BUT less drama.
So why shouldn't there be a kind of porn drama too?
However, I have the impression that for many it would be important:
- to indicate, which NTR it is
and, if necessary,
- a warning that the game can affect the state of mind (sadness, anger, fear of loss).
So if you like, you can tone down your NTR game by
- it was a bad dream
(or you have a second path)
- ... no, it wasn't a dream.