It's a problem that has been encounter by very few players and I'm totally unable to reproduce it, so it's really weird. I'll keep looking for it until I find something that may cause it.
For the gentle femdom part, it's a tricky subject. I'm running a poll at the moment on the Patreon, and the ones supporting me are clearly in favor of the current pace and mood, so there isn't much room for me to do gentle femdom and be viable (because let's be honest, I'm not going to spend 100h+ per month and pay for assets, sounds and courses for nothing when I've plenty of more relaxing things to do with my free time).
Personally, I'm also more in favor of a softer, more human femdom approach, so I'll try to get a little closer to that, but I can't do something that no one would support
Decisions, decisions!
I think the secret in here resides in the dialogs and not in the sexual activites themselves, they could be softer and more loving during the early parts of the game