4 months of bevearement? Not only that's ridiculously long, he could've paused the patreon during the time he didn't do anything with the game. But a dev pausing a patreon is like asking a politician to resign, a pipe dream
Do you have ANY idea how long it takes to deal with : a entire persons belongings, their medical files, talking to every company/council that sends "we haven't received xyz" or "there has been an overpayment", sorting out funeral arrangements, talking to family and coordinating everything?
that's not taking into account any legal action(s) that need to be taken either.
I'm going to guess the answer to is, no, you have little to no idea. it took me almost an entire year to deal with everything regarding my father's estate when he died, and as the direct heir, I was required to deal with all of it (and from a different country at that, because Scottish laws while similar to English laws, are still different).
So Back Off.
the only point I could agree with you on is Runey could have paused patreon for a bit, but I suspect Runey didn't know how long these things can take either, and assumed that it wouldn't take that long. sadly it does.