There's something wrong with normalizing it. Nipple sucking fetish stems from breastfeeding and men don't lactate, women do. If you ever see a man trying to breastfeed a kid, call the police because that's child abuse.
You obviously don't play many Japanese femdom games, because that's where your type of femdom thrives. There are things in their games you don't see as much of in doujins. I get it, you don't speak Japanese so you don't play Japanese games. Yet you sit here and whine about wanting more gentle femdom when that's what most femdom is. Hell, it's what most regular porn is. They all revolve around getting the dude off while ignoring the idea of what the women want. They like pleasure too, and trust me, they don't get it from giving footjobs. There's plenty of stuff for guys like you who want to be the special one and get off on seeing other men be treated like snowflakes. I don't like men, so I don't care much for porn where they're giving special treatment. Especially when that's all they get in everything else. It's hard AF to find porn that doesn't start with, end with, or involve blowjobs. But pussy eating? You won't find any hentai where that's the main course, even in femdom. It's not kink shaming to say that porn, especially porn that's supposed to be the genre that revolves around women, is lunacy when it still makes men the center of attention by having their pleasure (or displeasure) be the main theme.
In other words, you're the metaphorical guy in a suit holding a cup asking for spare change, fuck off with your claims of kink shaming.
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