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No one is asking you, me, or anyone to be politically correct. We're being asked to treat others as we wish to be treated.

Also, you're quoting George Carlin without actually sharing what Carlin actually believed.

No, you're monitoring his language and asking him to adopt an American version of what is tolerated and what is not when he is from France.

And I know what Carlin believed. I know everything Carlin ever put out there, lol. I've been a fan for decades. From the article you shared: "First I want to be really clear about one thing: as far as other people’s feeling are concerned—especially these “victim groups”—when I deal with them as individuals, I will call them whatever they want. When it’s one on one, if some guy wants me to call him a morbidly obese, African-ancestored male with a same gendered sexual orientation I’ll be glad to do that. One the other hand if he wants me to call him a fat n*gger c0cksucker, than that’s what it will be. I’m here to please."

And you haven't responded to my comment on intent. In fact, you cut out the part about intent. It's as if you don't care about intent and just want people do what everyone else thinks is right to be politically correct.
 

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We're being asked to treat others as we wish to be treated.
With the benefit of doubt in regard of what we know about them?

Like I did by understanding why you're reacting this way, apologizing, and editing my initial post to change the word in order to not offend any reader that would come in the future and have the US insult as meaning for the word.
 

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I offered AON a chance to look up the term without being more prolific in my response. I only followed up after AON did it again.
No, no you did not. You said
Wow. Just. Wow.

Really????? :FacePalm:
You COULD have just said "That word can be offensive", but you didn't. Instead, you acted like a bit of a dick to someone you KNOW means no offense. I cannot believe I have to say this to you of all people, but the American view of language isn't the only one that matters.
 
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I've replied to you once, but the last time I did an edit you replied while I was editing, so I'll just reply again. I also noticed you just focused on Carlin and didn't say a damn thing about what the words said.
 

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Anne and Count disagreeing for once... o_O:eek::WeSmart::PogChamp:
Oh, we've disagreed before. Just because we're similar ages and have good intentions, we are still different people... separated by an ocean (of water, and of experiences).
You've shoot an arrow in the dark, expecting that the word had for most of my life the meaning that it now have in your country. It's not the same.
This while its meaning, as I knew it until now, make them partly intruder, partly redounding (since followed by femboy), in my list. What can perfectly have been the reason why you were reacting...

All this while, as I said, MtF were mentioned twice, and the following definition explicitly pointed to the fact that the word wasn't used with the meaning you give it.
What is the funny part here. You could have thought that you assumed wrong the reason why I used that word, but preferred to decide that I was wrongly defining it.

It's clear that you've been personally hurt by this, and I'm sorry, but you should try to remember who you're talking too before jumping to such conclusions. It's not like I've never wrote posts as long as books in defense of transgenders before...
I did not think you used the word for the wrong reason. I didn't even notice at first that you wrongly defined it, either.

It's not that I'm personally hurt, either.

No, you're monitoring his language and asking him to adopt an American version of what is tolerated and what is not when he is from France.

And I know what Carlin believed. I know everything Carlin ever put out there, lol. I've been a fan for decades. From the article you shared: "First I want to be really clear about one thing: as far as other people’s feeling are concerned—especially these “victim groups”—when I deal with them as individuals, I will call them whatever they want. When it’s one on one, if some guy wants me to call him a morbidly obese, African-ancestored male with a same gendered sexual orientation I’ll be glad to do that. One the other hand if he wants me to call him a fat n*gger c0cksucker, than that’s what it will be. I’m here to please."

And you haven't responded to my comment on intent. In fact, you cut out the part about intent. It's as if you don't care about intent and just want people do what everyone else thinks is right to be politically correct.
No, I've just learned that you are only out for "gotcha" moments without truly understanding them. I've accepted that about you. You don't want to help people learn. You simply are looking for "aha" moments, whether or not you actually understand them.

That is the major difference between you and me.

I didn't comment on intent because I don't have an argument with intent. I know AON intended to be good-natured and helpful. That doesn't mean that AON shouldn't be informed their use of terms are not what they should be.

Also, You again, are creatively quoting Carlin. Yes, that article stated that - but in whole - the article is very clear how he feels. First, the quote you pulled from the link in the article supports my point, not yours. Re-read it again.

And to snip a quote, in your style - "First of all, I say “black”. I say “black” because most black people prefer “black”."

Most transgender women do not prefer shemale. They prefer transgender women. And as such, Carlin would - if he were alive today - say "transgender women" and not "shemales" or "trannies" or some such. His one transgender joke "I knew a transexual guy..." was within norms for the time and he would have kept with the norms to this day. And yes, I know you can pull a quote or quote and attempt to try to make your point. I know. However, Carlin - first and foremost - was about having people be introspective about their views and society. He was not about insulting someone --- unless he truly believed that someone needed insulted in order for them to be taken down a peg.

I can go on, but unless you are willing to move beyond gotcha moments, it's useless.
No, no you did not. You said

You COULD have just said "That word can be offensive", but you didn't. Instead, you acted like a bit of a dick to someone you KNOW means no offense. I cannot believe I have to say this to you of all people, but the American view of language isn't the only one that matters.
No shit.

I know what I said. I also know that how I said it should have raised a red flag.

And, you are taking this to become an US vs. Them (Americans vs. the world) when you know -- and commented as such that you know - that I don't play that shit.
 

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I know what I said. I also know that how I said it should have raised a red flag.
Dude, you dropped the ball. Just say "My bad, I should have been more clear" and move on. This argument makes you look you can't accept the fact that you might have been in the wrong.
 

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Oh, we've disagreed before. Just because we're similar ages and have good intentions, we are still different people... separated by an ocean (of water, and of experiences).

I did not think you used the word for the wrong reason. I didn't even notice at first that you wrongly defined it, either.

It's not that I'm personally hurt, either.


No, I've just learned that you are only out for "gotcha" moments without truly understanding them. I've accepted that about you. You don't want to help people learn. You simply are looking for "aha" moments, whether or not you actually understand them.

That is the major difference between you and me.

I didn't comment on intent because I don't have an argument with intent. I know AON intended to be good-natured and helpful. That doesn't mean that AON shouldn't be informed their use of terms are not what they should be.

Also, You again, are creatively quoting Carlin. Yes, that article stated that - but in whole - the article is very clear how he feels. First, the quote you pulled from the link in the article supports my point, not yours. Re-read it again.

And to snip a quote - "First of all, I say “black”. I say “black” because most black people prefer “black”."

Most transgender women do not prefer shemale. They prefer transgender women. And as such, Carlin would - if he were alive today - say "transgender women" and not "shemales" or "trannies" or some such. His one transgender joke "I knew a transexual guy..." was within norms for the time and he would have kept with the norms to this day. And yes, I know you can pull a quote or quote and attempt to try to make your point. I know. However, Carlin - first and foremost - was about having people be introspective about their views and society. He was not about insulting someone --- unless he truly believed that someone needed insulted in order for them to be taken down a peg.

I can go on, but unless you are willing to move beyond gotcha moments, it's useless.
My first degree was in political science. Welcome to one of the things I actually understand. I honestly agree that the word is outdated and probably wouldn't use it myself, I also agree with what I quoted from the article Carlin shared, I'll use any word people want me to use for them. I'm not out to offend anyone (well I am sometimes, but not that way.), but I'm not going to police other people's words ever. I will however call out intent every single time. But I also wholeheartedly agree with the intent of the quoted image I shared...is policing language going to fix anything? Ever? Or is it just going to raise antagonism? (Spoiler, it's raising antagonism currently.)

That's the difference between you and me. You are so caught up in being the living embodiment of cut and paste knowledge that you never stop to think...what do I believe?

You will never not know what I believe. Even when I'm trolling people it's incredibly obvious how I feel about something. Sure, I love a good gotcha moment, they amuse me, but I'll never act like a racist to get a gotcha moment, nor will I act like I like rape games or beating women like that MW guy.
 
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Dude, you dropped the ball. Just say "My bad, I should have been more clear" and move on. This argument makes you look you can't accept the fact that you might have been in the wrong.
Bullshit. When I'm wrong.. I admit it.
No, no you did not. You said

You COULD have just said "That word can be offensive", but you didn't. Instead, you acted like a bit of a dick to someone you KNOW means no offense. I cannot believe I have to say this to you of all people, but the American view of language isn't the only one that matters.
No shit.

I know what I said. I also know that how I said it should have raised a red flag.

And, you are taking this to become an US vs. Them (Americans vs. the world) when you know -- and commented as such that you know - that I don't play that shit.

And when AON made the mistake again - I was quite clear about the problem:
Again, really?

I think you are missing the point of my "REALLY?!" Again, using a term of objectification and sexualization. Essentially making the same mistake as someone whom are attempting to correct.

What's worse is using the term and then defining it incorrectly even within the context of objectification and sexualization.
First come shemale, who have neither boobs nor vagina, and pose as men.
No. The dehumanizing term "Shemale" is used by people to talk about a transgender individual who was assigned male at birth, but who presents themselves (and may identify themselves) as a woman.
I wasn't berating him or insulting him. I was being clear and concise about the term.

So, no. I was not wrong.
 

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My first degree was in political science. Welcome to one of the things I actually understand. I honestly agree that the word is outdated and probably wouldn't use it myself, I also agree with what I quoted from the article Carlin shared, I'll use any word people want me to use for them. I'm not out to offend anyone (well I am sometimes, but not that way.), but I'm not going to police other people's words ever. I will however call out intent every single time. But I also wholeheartedly agree with the intent of the quoted image I shared...is policing language going to fix anything? Ever? Or is it just going to raise antagonism? (Spoiler, it's raising antagonism currently.)

That's the difference between you and me. You are so caught up in being the living embodiment of cut and paste knowledge that you never stop to think...what do I believe?

You will never not know what I believe. Even when I'm trolling people it's incredibly obvious how I feel about something. Sure, I love a good gotcha moment, they amuse me, but I'll never act like a racist to get a gotcha moment, nor will I act like I like rape games or beating women like that MW guy.
I worked in politics and government service for over two decades.

Nice try on the gotcha. I know what I believe. You're pulling bullshit out of your ass. Go look at my posts. It's pretty straight-forward. If you have questions - ask and I'll give you a clear answer.
 

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I worked in politics and government service for over two decades.

Nice try on the gotcha. I know what I believe. You're pulling bullshit out of your ass.
No, I'm honestly not. If you fully believe fully in policing the worlds words, then more power to you I guess? I disagree, but there we are. I'm not trying to get a gotcha on you currently, I'm trying have an honest debate about this and I happen to think that word creep is one of the worst things for our culture. Hermaphrodite is now offensive (and by proxy, futanari should be too since it's Japanese for hermaphrodite. But that's not part of this discussion.) By the rules you are using right now an older person that is actually trying to be inoffensive, but uses a word that was accepted a decade or so ago, they should be chastised? Or should they be responded according to their intent? Correcting them is possible too, without jumping all over them.
 

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I'd argue different. Aside from the fact it's been happening since forever.
I don't mean natural growth of language, that was me being lazy. I meant the habit of words being replaced by other words officially to avoid offense. To use Carlin as an excuse again, "Shell shock" -> something I can't remember -> PTSD -> something else I can't remember, but it was silly (imo).

Edit: And, of course, hermaphrodite, which I mentioned in my last post.
 

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If you fully believe fully in policing the worlds words,
"policing words" is an attempt to shut down the conversation, dude.

You're doing exactly what you are claiming you are against.

If you are going to call the following a square:
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I'm going to correct you. And - I may even copy/paste a definition just so you see why it's not a square, but a circle.
Hermaphrodite is now offensive
Hermaphodite outside of scholastic and medical fields in the past (and to this day) was always offensive. Again, it goes to Carlin's comment about White Christian males making the rules and controlling the language.
By the rules you are using right now an older person that is actually trying to be inoffensive, but uses a word that was accepted a decade or so ago, they should be chastised?
The word has been used as a pejorative for decades. Not just the last decade or so. It wasn't ever accepted - except in porn and to be used as an insult. AON and I are the same age. We can teach old dogs new tricks.

I didn't chastise him. First, I showed shock and disbelief. When he repeated it, I then stated why I was shocked. After my post, AON then went to look up his mistake and then found why. But, if a person continues to repeat the mistake - it becomes less a mistake and more appearing as an intent. Such as this exchange - your intent is very clear ... and then, yes, chastisement may be necessary.
Oof, that must have sucked. I went back to college and got comp sci after just under of decade in that field.
Nope, I loved it. I loved being a people's servant and striving for a better future, a better planet, a better home for all of us. But some things changed in my life about 5 years ago and so I made a change in careers into literature, composition, creative writing within higher education.