Okay, I'm not going to have three different arguments going with three different people on the exact topic in the exact same forum. So let's put it this way (when I say you I am referring generally to the people who disagree with my position and not any one individual.) We both see an ad for a car that is for sale by an individual. We separately test drive the car. You like the car exactly the way it is. I tell the seller that I like the car generally, but I would prefer if it was black. The seller offers to paint it black. You complain that I have some nerve asking the seller to change the color of the car. The seller asks you if you are willing to by the car the way it is. You tell the seller that you have no interest in buying the car regardless of the color. The seller then paints the car and I buy. You are then angry with both me and the seller. The only thing that would have made you happy was if the seller ended up with the car he could not sell in the original color.
Okay first off let me start by saying I'm not here to add another argument. I've been reading and after the quoted post I finally understand where you are coming from (I think). I think it mostly boils down to a different point of view.
You seem to be coming at this from the point that this is a product that the dev is selling where as others see it as sponsoring an artist they enjoy. I'll try not to speak for the dev or anyone else so just take this as my point of view.
These games aren't finished products so they aren't being sold. You're analogy earlier about books and movies aren't quite the same. Those people have agreed before hand to give up some control of their product to help get it made and distributed to an audience wider than they could on their own. Usually if a dev wants to allow patrons to suggest changes they make a tier that you would have to pay to be able to do that. That's totally fine.
(This is in general, not directed at you) I personally don't care if the scenes stay in or not and at this point it's kind of moot. I don't even mind people suggesting changes that would make them happy. The problem comes when people add a qualifier, such as, make blah blah change or I quit/drop my patronage/ whatever. Just make the statement of what you aren't happy with. Don't make threats or ultimatums to the dev. It comes off as whiney and entitled. If you're a patron and sponsoring a game then make the threats on patreon. That seems the more appropriate place for it, not a site where 99%(?) of the people are playing the game/beta testing it for free.