funnythings3785
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You are arguing one "fact", but using it incorrectly in this situation. A simple chemical response to a physical activity does solve the issues that come before and after that "drugging" and make no mistake, it is a "drug" effect you are talking about, and I think some here who know better than I could probably explain the addiction aspects of that as well (ie sex addiction).What part of 'its fact' did you miss? Now I didn't say something like cheating was a necessity or anything like that, but that sex is primordial in the manage of mental pressures, it help letting the steam out, its how its always been.
Now I am sure you'll say 'but he could have had it with his wife', when she isn't available for XYZ reasons? She induced a unending stream of mental pressure on him, in every Acts, every days of his life since the reveal of what his wife had done in College, the stress, the anxiety, it would be massive, and how do do we see her fuck him compared to how much she fuck him up? Its vastly uneven.
Act 3 she had sex with him before the girl's day, and I think that was it, after they came back and she went on to do her art, she outright isolated herself and prevent him from interacting with her. She took care of her own emotional and psychological needs, ignored those of her husbands whom 99% of all his issues stem directly from her.
Look it probably help that I am not a proponent of monogamy, I believe that polyamory is the correct way of life, its mentally healthier and provide better support than monogamy, while you are clearly only believe in pure monogamy.
What you are not paying attention to is the consequences of this on everything. As I said, he does not want to do this, he thinks it is wrong, he thinks it is harmful to Lacey and he thinks this because he feels the same way about her doing these things.
I gave you a good example with Anna. He was approved by Lacey to go out on a date and be kissed by Anna. So what was his mind state? The moment he is kissed he feels shocked... like he did something wrong. He already thinks the date is going to weight on Lacey, they already had this discussion before he went.
Right after the date, what does he do? He is immediately concerned for how Lacey feels about the date and kiss, and he is worried she is going to take it badly... even discusses to himself how he should prepare to comfort her. So, for the moment of bliss, he is already worried about the offense... all "healing" that you suggest from the "drug" effect is lost, but it doesn't stop there. Lacey IS upset... she is jealous and scared (even though she planned and approved it), yet what does she do? She PUNISHES him for it, proceeds to make him jealous.
Now tell me, how is this "healing" at all? Where are all of these "sexual" actions and behaviors helping him when it produces these consequences? Heck, we know it isn't helping Lacey in her relationship with him, she admits it hurts her and even lashes out at him making it worse when he does... but... well... it was worth a moment of bliss right?
This is my objection to you, not the basic chemical reaction of dopamine and serotonin on the brain, but the actual cost of them after that moment of "soothing" is over with. There is a cost, and in the MCs case, it is at a loss of value.