That is very well said. I like the categories you stated. definitionistas.
The self-appointed abolitionists, the harassers, and haters… The Guardians.
The definitionistas are the ones that really puzzle me. Why spend that amount of time defining something so
arbitrary? And then state your interpretation as if it is the law.
I have a theory about the controversy. I think is rooted in the immature minds of the less confident. Members that have little relationship experience and are edgy towards incell status. you can imagine someone struggling with even trying to have a relationship is going to look at ntr as a real possibility which makes just starting a relationship too daunting. So they lash out here to feel like they have some control when they don't really.
The only truly healthy NTR is one of mutual agreement and openness. There are a few games here that do that.
In life, it's almost impossible to have that work. we are not machines that can turn off our instincts.
Jealousy, greed, envy, etc... are built into us.
Sorry to dimajio333 for taking up the tread.