Asking her to hold your cum in her mouth and then telling her to swallow when cumming on her mouth does not lower it anymore? Asking her to lick your balls clean too doesn't?
You can use the Lecture option in the Shrine in your backyard. Assign her to your party if you are trying to limit who should have low willpower. Choose the anti-willpower lecture. You can do it 3 times daily. Not sure if it costs devotion points.
You can always cheat a trait in as long as you figure out the exact mctrait word/variable to add. It helps to have multiple new account starts to know which variable is which if you are unfamiliar by checking each new account save. Or check the html file.
Having 80 Dexterity or 80 Melee Combat allows you to start in the forward position. You have to press it on the screen before combat to set it. You will see a black triangle below a character's picture. Click it.
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