I suppose I could have clarified it a bit more, its selective. So its not even a set in stone trait for the MC.(another bit of bad writing if you want to be that guy) He will go out of his way on occasion for other people's benefit, yet the early chapters are essentially him being a doormat the game, this lessens mildly post chapter 3 but it does occasionally resurface even then. So he's spineless, weak and flat footed when it comes doing anything for himself that is not in the pursuit of caving to the LIs whether you want to pursue them or not. Meanwhile he will go out of his way for them, its a true flip flop of a personality and its not even done in a believable fashion but again we veer into personal taste so I will cut that off there.
On the front of the girls, well yeah it really does come across as most of them being utterly insincere and using him. The author even goes out of his way to show how they are doing it with cut away scenes.