This is tiring. Pointless and tiring.
The basis for your preferences are irrelevant, when you are stating them and expecting that someone else makes an effort to meet your standards. Aesthetic or otherwise, you are placing an onus on another to satisfy some need to control.
Whether they do it or not for their own satisfaction, becomes secondary, because to you, and others that place the same onus, the important part is truly their compliance.
This, may be an adopted stance on your part, something that you didn't even rationalize, they (the lower forms of life called women) must go through the hoops to meet whatever stupid requirement you come up with. Longer hair, shorter hair, bigger boobs, smaller boobs, larger hips, smaller hips, fake pubic hair, no pubic hair, no armpit hair, trimmed eyebrows, no eyebrows, longer eye lashes, colored face, no color at all, strong lipstick, no lipstick, strong jawline, soft jawline, pierced, unpierced, tattooed, no tattoos, the list goes on and on and on and on...
There's always a way to call them ugly, to make them comply to whatever form of control your "aesthetics" demand of them. Because, acceptance and respect is completely out of question, what matters is to call them ugly, make them doubt themselves and control them.
I've been reading, since the Covid, the male reactions to women that stopped painting their hair. The vitriol and abuse is insane. Almost as insane as what goes on here.
If you can't like a woman in their Natural state, you don't really like women, you like the control you have over them to make them look however you decide they MUST look. Tell yourself the lies you need to make this go down, that doesn't change anything.
Tiring, pointless, vain...
Peace