Something that came up with a patron that I'm gonna post here, because it seems like this is the place where the most confusion happens.
If you
DON'T wanna have sex with one of the girls (after the first time with a few) you need to use either the walkthrough or mod and not get points with them or not choose any of the threesome options when they appear (which are also listed in the PDF and Mod).
I give anywhere from a 7-10 point gap in order to obtain sex. Meaning you can have 7-10 points less than what's required and still get it. Why do I do this, because a lot of games IMO give far too small a window.
In certain circumstances with some of the side girls I also give you a choice, even if you HAVE met the points requirement, or sometimes I'll do a temporary variable, like I did on the date with Shelly last update, that is specific to just getting that scene. This doesn't apply to all or most dates however, just some.
But, again, this is all in the walkthrough and mod, so if you are playing blind, which is totally cool, just know if you answer the choices based on MC's interactions with the character, in most cases this will result in points. But
again the only way to be sure is use the PDF or mod.
Hope that clears things up for anyone who had questions, I'm gonna post a version of this on patron as well, just to cover bases, but I thought I'd post it here first.
P.S. -Sex to this point with Lydia is guaranteed apart from a couple scenes where I used the date mechanic I spoke of earlier. This will change toward the end of the game, but we're not close to that yet. Why is this?
Because Lydia is cannon, and if you choose to get points with no one, you'll still have one girl you're with, your original LI. Why is that!? Because it's how the game is structured. If you all haven't played
Life with Mary, play that game, not just because it's good, but because you'll know how One Day at a Time is ultimately going to work better.
Apart from there being a harmish sort of ending in ODDAT, where that game only has at max a two girl ending (which ODAAT will also have as I've said from the beginning).