Are you really talking about "respect" for the sex and sexual orientation of an Artificial Intelligence? AI are asexual beings by definition. It´s like respecting the gender identification and sexual orientation of Siri or Alexa. This thing of political correctness has definitely gotten out of hand
If this character is an AI, can't have male of female sex (as, again Siri or Alexa, that have female voices and names, but that means nothing, it´s just a marketing decision) and sexual urges. Why would someone program an AI with sexual desires for humans? To create a new fetish that doesn´t even have a name?
Even an artificial intelligence with self-awareness and free will would not have male or female sex, or sexual urges, since it does not reproduce, least of all sexually. Sex and copulation are strictly a biological phenomenon. The same happens with love or other human feelings and emotions. It would be absurd and I hope the writer will not go down that path of humanizing and sexualizing an IA. It was stupid enough to see it with the character of EDI in Mass Effect 3.