Sounds like you could use some production advice on how to be more "publisher"-"friendly" as platforms often act, and I think I've got an idea that might work out a happy ending for everyone about it.
1. Keep making your vision with the idea of not caring what Patreon thinks, because it cannot dictate what you make, only what you publish. Set that aside in personal archive. Do not advertise this version aside from saying it will return when you have more creative freedom. Subtle dig opportunities are available.
[Shocked horse face and "COCKBLOCKED BY PATREON!" might be a tad much, though.]
2. From that version, edit a Patreon-Friendly version you publish for as long as you're using Patreon - this does not prevent or preclude any mods/patches from the community in the interim as you are not involved with them.
3. When you're ready to tell Patreon to go get fucked by a bison, take the original creative vision version from your personal archive and then edit in the Patreon-Friendly version as an Incest On/Off, Beastiality On/Off toggle to boast even more features.
Technically, by this Patreon can't say shit based on what you're releasing until you break ties with the platform.