Well, I think we can agree to disagree with each other.
We can agree that it isn't necessary for us to agree about matters of opinion. If I think that Fetish A is disgusting, and you that Fetish A is great, this is a difference of opinion, and we can agree to disagree. But questions of fact are not matters of opinion. So, for example, when you say the following...
But in the western world it is seen as an abuse of power for someone who has authority over someone to have sex with them, doesn't matter what anyone's opinion is, that is the law of most lands.
This is a question of fact. Is it a fact that, in the Western world, it is seen as an abuse of power for someone in a position of authority to have sex with someone under their authority? No, that is not a fact. I am in the Western world, and I don't see it as (necessarily) an abuse of power. It could be in some circumstances, but it isn't in most circumstances. And I've seen this argument take place many times, both online and IRL, and I know that the public opinion on this is not uniform. It is not universally accepted that this is abuse of power. And, from what I've seen, heard, and read, I'm inclined to believe that it isn't even the majority opinion. So it's not factually correct to say that this is how it is in the Western world. It would be factually correct to say that this is a topic which is under debate in the Western world.
As for it being the law of most lands, that is factually false. It is not the law in most lands that people in positions of authority commit rape by having sex with people under their authority.
In the UK, I know that the Sexual Offences Act of 2003 made it illegal for teachers to have sex with students, but the grounds given in the statue weren't an imbalance of authority, but rather a "position of trust." Also, I have read a couple of different legal interpretations of that law. One claimed that it applied to any teacher and student, regardless of age, and the other legal interpretation stated that it only applied when the student was under 18. I'm not a lawyer, and I don't live in the UK, so I'm not going to pick a side there.
We see all the time teachers getting imprisoned for having sex with a student under their authority, I mean even in America they have Statutory Rape Laws which basically says a 21+ year old can be tried for that if they have sex with someone under the age of 21 with or without consent, other countries that age limit is set at a lower age.
This is also factually incorrect. Yes, we do see teachers getting imprisoned for having sex with students, but in nearly all cases, it's because of the student's age. In many US states, anyone over the age of 21 can't legally have sex with anyone under the age of 18. There are some US states, however, where it is legal, as long as the younger partner is at least 16, which is the youngest age of consent in any US state. So a 30 year old teacher having sex with a 17 year old student is committing statutory rape, not because they are in a position of authority, but because of the ages of the people involved. It would be just as illegal for two complete strangers, who had no imbalance of authority, to have sex, if they were the same ages.
In Pennsylvania it is. Besides teachers, anyone who works in a prison. A 21 year old woman working in a prison who has sex with a 45 year old male prisoner could be charged with institutional sexual assault. Doesn't apply to college professors or bosses though.
Cases of guards (or the warden) and prisoners would be one of the "outlying scenarios" which I mentioned. I said...
There could be some outlying scenarios in which this proposition would hold up to scrutiny in a court of law, but I'm convinced that they would be the vast minority of cases.
And cases of prisoners having sex with guards, while not by any means uncommon, are most definitely the vast minority of cases.
As for Pennsylvania having a law which says that high school (and below) teachers cannot have sex with any student, regardless of age, that's true. The state of Michigan also has such a law. But here's the thing about that - the Supreme Court of the state of Georgia ruled in 2019 that the state's minimum age of consent (16 in Georgia) was a valid defense against charges of criminal sexual conduct, if there was consent in the case, and this was specifically addressing a case of sex between a teacher and a student. The age of consent is also 16 in both Michigan and Pennsylvania, so there's a pretty good chance that these state laws could be thrown out by the Supreme Courts of these two states, if a challenge to those laws ever comes before those courts.
Edit - Count down to all of these posts being deleted for being "off topic", despite the fact that we're discussing the legality of a relationship in this game.