Personally, the "milker" accusation is the one thing I've learnt to completely ignore when checking out the reception for the games I like.
Simply because, contrary to the loud protests about slow production, and the frequent name calling of "lazy" devs, those who actually support the games have proven time and again that they're very patient and trusting.
If you've proven your game is worth their attention, they will support you irrespective of how other see your work.
So, (while I understand it's not easy to ignore unwarranted hate/critcism), I'd actually recommend not paying too much attention to comments that are unnecessarily twitchy about milking.
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(Note: Of course, I'm not saying there aren't any devs who abuse the trust of their supporters, but the milker label being thrown at everyone and their grandmothers these days is just plain hilarious.)
yeah people that pay for patreons wouldn't really care about milking, if they do, they just won't pay in the first place, or stop paying
as much as i like to play Summer Heat, i'm not gonna pay for it given how long the development process is and how atrocious the pacing is (the worst part).
on the other side, i don't care if Arson Betrayal or Seeking Closure takes their time to release per update, i don't even check patreon that much
they can take their time i don't really care
yeah those who say "milking" probably doesn't pay
though i can see ex-payers is probably comment like that too
there is 1 dev i'm still subscribed on patreon that has very few update posts combined with extremely spotty release time that gets me a bit annoyed.
How hard is it to post patron updates if your game release takes along time and you have little credibility on release sustainability (I'm comparing them to Hopes Gaming who also don't post on patreon and have spotty release update but very high credibility on release sustainability)
With that particular dev, i just decrease my tier to the lowest tier.
In that situation, i can see ex-payers probably comment on "milking' in this situation. Though for the record, this dev in particular doesn't milk, they have few patrons as it is, there's nothing to "milk"
but yeah, any current patrons on average probably likely doesn't care if devs "milk" them, they don't think their payment is "milking" in the first place