One thing that isn't often discussed is to remember that Patreon receives fees from every pledge, right? So the big ones that are the likes of BB and DmD etc are no brainers to keep really. Patreon doesn't want to harm the income too much afterall.
It's a silly thing overall really, I wish creators started to make their own sites and controlled the distribution and everything themselves, but to do so you'd lose patreons natural userbase and it'd be harder for potential customers to find you (since patreon is simply click-done).
Sorry to see your going through this though Irrdeemable, hopefully back on track soon.
PS; I bet she's having a fun time playing the game... She'll ask you on tips how to sort the toilet out