I don't understand your point. Should you set your preferences in a choice based game with every single choice once? 1st choice for NTR you say ''no thanks'' the game goes ''ok, I will not ask you about NTR ever again'', 1st choice about whether you want to have sex with another girl besides your gf, you say ''no thanks'' the game goes ''ok, you won't be able to have sex with another girl ever again'', 1st choice about whether you want to see another man fuck another woman who is not your gf, you say for example ''yeah, sure'' the game goes ''ok, from now on every single other girl will have sex with other men, you won't get a choice anymore''. Is this how it is supposed to work in your mind? You get a total of like 3-4 choices through out the whole game and then see the game just play itself and turn into a kinetic novel according to your ''preferences''?I replayed the beggining of the game. 1st choice with the bum, 2nd choice with the landlord are view NTR scene or not and it goes on and on as you know (and yes, kathryn kissing nate is unavoidable). There was no reason to ask again, let alone a dozen times. You should've been able to set your preference at the 1st instance.
Dev just has to continue the pattern start to finish, give the same choice that was given before through out every interaction.I'd imagine from a dev's perspective it would be difficult to implement just having one girl off limits.
No, harem just means that you get all the girls. I very much enjoy the games in which I can have a stable loyal relationship with one girl while other men fuck other women who are not my girl, such games exist.I'd still exercise caution whenever that appears without the harem tag alongside it, as that should indicate you can't keep girls exclusive to MC.