Maybe 'essence' is something like free will, and losing it just means you won't get any more chances to back out and will just have to mold your mind to suit your fate - hence game over.
Femdom is the only context where ntr can be hot. MC shouldn't like it though, accept it, maybe, but not unironically want it. If subbie wants to get spanked, they're not being spanked hard enough to try and avoid it.
If you *Must* have that in the game make it avoidable - a good way is to put the player between a rock and a hard place. Make them pay dearly to avoid something they don't want (
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) And if this pisses people off, remember it should be subjective which alternative is 'worse'. This way no matter what they choose they feel pursued and driven into trouble by the other 'monster'.
There was the toilet scene where it's implied.
They could make it something you can shut off like the futa (I wouldn't be playing this game if you couldn't shut that off ) I don't think it needs to be graphically portrayed even if it is implied. Maybe shutting it off means it's not mentioned at all.